THE #1 MO­TI­VA­TION OF SUC­CESS­FUL PEO­PLE, AND WHY YOU DON’T WANT IT

Do you have real abun­dance? Are you seek­ing abun­dance be­cause you are in fear? Here are three key things to make the shift from scarcity and fear-based think­ing, to abun­dance-based think­ing.

Living Now - - Living & Learning - By Julie Ann Cairns

What is the #1 mo­ti­va­tion for most peo­ple who strive for suc­cess? It may sur­prise you… I’ve met a lot of peo­ple over the years in my jour­ney to abun­dance and I’ve come to learn that there is true suc­cess, and then there is some­thing that I call ‘ap­par­ent’ suc­cess – and the one thing that dif­fer­en­ti­ates the truly suc­cess­ful from the ‘ap­par­ently’ suc­cess­ful, is their un­der­ly­ing mo­ti­va­tion. There are lots of peo­ple who are striv­ing and work­ing hard to sup­port their fam­i­lies, to ad­vance in their ca­reers, to climb the cor­po­rate lad­der, or to run their own busi­nesses who are not do­ing it be­cause they re­ally like what they do, but be­cause they place a high value on se­cu­rity – and be­cause they want to pro­vide for their them­selves, their fam­i­lies, their fu­ture, and they are afraid of what might go wrong if they don’t work re­ally hard.

Of­ten they sac­ri­fice their time, their health, and even their re­la­tion­ships with the very fam­ily they are seek­ing to pro­vide for, in or­der to cre­ate free­dom ‘some­day’. That ‘some­day’ is al­ways in the fu­ture, dan­gling in front of them like a car­rot that is al­ways out of reach… it’s not here and it’s not now. They have trou­ble en­joy­ing their lives to­day. In­stead they are al­ways chas­ing, al­ways stressed out, and liv­ing for that ‘some­day’ when they can slow down and re­ally en­joy their lives.

When you dig into this, what they are mo­ti­vated by is fear.

Fear can be very mo­ti­vat­ing! And in a lot of ways that can have its use­ful­ness. You can get a LOT done in the fear mode. You can gain qual­i­fi­ca­tions in fear mode. You can get a job in fear mode. You can get a mort­gage in fear mode. You can even get ‘ap­par­ent’ suc­cess in fear mode. And it’s not sur­pris­ing that so many of us are liv­ing in this state of fear. We may not even re­alise it…

Ev­ery sin­gle day we are bom­barded with mes­sages de­signed to stoke our fears about se­cu­rity, scarcity, wars and con­flict that in­crease our sense that there is ‘not enough’…we are bom­barded with mes­sages that we need to be better, smarter, more ed­u­cated, fit­ter, thin­ner, what­ever, in or­der to be okay (be­cause some­how we are also ‘not enough’)… and then we are en­cour­aged to ap­pease and cover over our re­sult­ing fears and in­se­cu­ri­ties with ma­te­rial ‘stuff’… by buy­ing some­thing, eat­ing some­thing, drink­ing some­thing, or dis­tract­ing our­selves with TV, video games, so­cial me­dia, etc., in or­der to feel better.

It’s a vi­cious cy­cle of fear, fol­lowed by numb­ing that fear… fol­lowed by anx­i­ety, crav­ings, ad­dic­tions and even de­pres­sion.

The thing is, there’s a re­ally high price to hav­ing the fear switch in our brains stuck in the ‘on’ po­si­tion all the time. It keeps our adrenal glands pump­ing non­stop and it leads to all kinds of stress­re­lated con­di­tions like mus­cle ten­sion, headaches, and even ex­ces­sive weight gain es­pe­cially around the ab­domen. It can also lead to poor ‘knee-jerk re­ac­tion’ type de­ci­sion mak­ing, lead­ing to sit­u­a­tions where even though we are crazy busy, we’re just spin­ning our wheels and not mak­ing much progress to­wards our dreams. So fear is re­ally one of those things that’s most use­ful in ‘ fight or flight’ type cri­sis sit­u­a­tions – when it can re­ally save our butts – but not so great as a con­stant mo­ti­va­tor in our lives.

It can be tough to break out of the fear mode once we’re in it, though, be­cause it can be self-per­pet­u­at­ing. When we are stuck in this fear and con­sump­tion mode 24/7, it makes it hard for us to en­joy life’s sim­ple plea­sures. It re­ally can ham­per our abil­ity to feel sim­ple joy, hap­pi­ness and peace in our lives. Is there a better way? What is real suc­cess and abun­dance, free from fear? What does it look like in prac­tice? How do we choose it? And how can we all col­lec­tively change our mind­set and choose a better way for the fu­ture of our planet?

What I’ve come to learn is that we have to re­alise three key things in or­der to make the shift from scarcity and fear-based think­ing, to abun­dance­based think­ing.

Abun­dance is not how much we own, or what kind of car we drive, what de­grees or other types of so­cial sta­tus we have... It’s how we treat oth­ers. Are we lov­ing? Are we kind? Do we come from a place of gen­eros­ity of spirit, deed and word? 2. We re­alise that abun­dance is some­thing we do to­gether No one is an is­land. If we want real change for our planet, we have to do it to­gether. Abun­dance has to be­come a true so­cial move­ment, an ethos and a way of liv­ing that has deep roots in our so­cial struc­tures and way of col­lec­tive think­ing if we are to head off the dan­ger­ous macro-level changes that are tak­ing place on our sparkling blue planet. When we shift our fo­cus away from ‘me me me’ to ‘we we we’ in­stead, that is when our per­sonal ad­dic­tions, crav­ings, and unattain­able de­sires start to drop away. All I can say is trust me on this one. Try it and you’ll see. There’s a special ‘charge’ you get from help­ing oth­ers and no amount of stuff, shoes, cars, man­i­cures, or even thrillseek­ing ad­ven­tures can quite match that special ‘charge’ – but you have to find that out you­self by giv­ing it a go. Fi­nally, we can sum up these three key re­al­i­sa­tions into one: Abun­dance is an in­ter­nal choice. Choose it to­day. n

Julie Ann Cairns is the au­thor of the book The Abun­dance Code, pub­lished by Hay House and is spear­head­ing The Abun­dance Code doc­u­men­tary (June 2016) which ex­plores, through 15 pow­er­ful in­ter­views with thoughtlead­ers from around the world, how our world and our col­lec­tive con­scious­ness can make the paradigm shift from scarcity think­ing to an abun­dance-based way of be­ing. Our very sur­vival de­pends on it.

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