Over­com­ing self-sabotage with ki­ne­si­ol­ogy

Clear­ing a sabotage pro­gram brings aware­ness, clar­ity and a way for­ward that is self­lib­er­at­ing and life chang­ing. Are you ready to make some changes and stop self­s­ab­o­tag­ing?

Living Now - - Contents - by Amy Kinkel

Per­sonal growth con­tin­ues through­out our lives when we are open to clear­ing self-lim­it­ing sab­o­tages.

THE VIRUS OF SELF-SABOTAGE

It is those quiet times when we stop and re­flect on what we’d like to achieve in life that we may recog­nise we are sab­o­tag­ing our­selves. Ki­ne­si­ol­ogy can help us cut through the mesh that ob­scures our view of what is pos­si­ble, and lead us to a full and sat­is­fy­ing fu­ture.

Achiev­ing our dreams is not al­ways easy. Doubts, fears, judge­ment, and self-crit­i­cism that spring from our inner voices, of­ten keep us safely in check. This pre­vents us from step­ping out of the fa­mil­iar roles and am­bi­tions we’ve en­vi­sioned.

These thoughts are like lim­it­ing con­structs we build around us for pro­tec­tion and re­flect our at­ti­tudes to life. They may have been adopted from life ex­pe­ri­ence, cul­tural, so­cial, and fa­mil­ial, gen­der-based or other in­flu­ences.

From a ki­ne­si­ol­ogy per­spec­tive, these at­ti­tudes op­er­ate as sabotage pro­grams – sim­i­lar to a com­puter virus that may slow or se­lec­tively shut down pro­gram­ming se­quences.

KI­NE­SI­OL­OGY: TEAR­ING DOWN THE WALLS YOU NO LONGER NEED

Most of­ten the con­structs, like walls, are es­tab­lished brick by brick as we grow, cre­at­ing a mo­saic of our life. Some parts may be rich and colour­ful while other parts won’t work out as we wish.

How­ever, noth­ing stays the same and of­ten these walls were es­tab­lished at a time when they were rel­e­vant in our life. Now, they may no longer be suit­able, lim­it­ing us from achiev­ing our po­ten­tial.

Ki­ne­si­ol­ogy can bring aware­ness to the as­pects of our be­ing that keep us from mov­ing out of our com­fort zones. It can help us to open the way to move for­ward and lead a hap­pier life. Once we have cleared the sab­o­tages, our goals sud­denly seem at­tain­able.

Aware­ness is a key fac­tor in iden­ti­fy­ing a sabotage pro­gram, the links to when it was cre­ated and other emo­tional fac­tors that play into its con­trol. Our mind may cre­ate con­flict­ing thought pat­terns where we are es­sen­tially in two minds by ‘want­ing’ a cer­tain out­come, but on the other hand, not want­ing it.

GET­TING OFF THE TREAD­MILL OF EX­IS­TENCE

An­other sabotage pro­gram re­veals a re­ver­sal in at­ti­tudes. This is a some­what deeper sab­o­tatge pro­gram where at the con­scious level we may have a de­sired goal, but at an­other sub­con­scious level, an ul­te­rior mo­tive or driv­ing force takes us in the op­po­site di­rec­tion. Such rev­e­la­tions can be sur­pris­ing, and op­tions for change are of­ten the trig­ger.

Fear or anx­i­ety can quickly arise when change is on the hori­zon. Of­ten our mind will leap ahead to the many and var­ied op­tions of “What if I was suc­cess­ful….”

Suc­cess in­evitably means change. Many peo­ple avoid change be­cause the un­known can be less than com­fort­able. But where does the com­fort­able and fa­mil­iar lead us? Of­ten nowhere - just a tread­mill ex­is­tence. Per­haps ‘suc­cess’ has been achieved, but what next?

The po­ten­tial that we may feel in youth can di­min­ish as we get older. To­gether with the trap­pings or bur­dens of work, ca­reer or re­spon­si­bil­i­ties, we tend to fol­low the well-trod­den paths as we re­alise our ex­pec­ta­tions, rather than forg­ing new av­enues of ex­pe­ri­ence and sat­is­fac­tion.

Clear­ing a sabotage pro­gram brings aware­ness, clar­ity and a way for­ward that is self-lib­er­at­ing and life chang­ing. This may come in the form of a con­flict or re­ver­sal in at­ti­tude. Thus, con­cepts of change can bring ex­cite­ment along with the chal­lenge. Per­sonal growth con­tin­ues through­out our lives when we are open to clear­ing self-lim­it­ing sab­o­tages. n

Doubts, fears, judge­ment, and self-crit­i­cism that spring from our inner voices, of­ten keep us safely in check.

Amy Kinkel is a ki­ne­si­ol­o­gist (PKP Cer­ti­fi­ca­tion Pro­gram), founder and man­ager of White Owl Well-be­ing Cen­tre for Ki­ne­si­ol­ogy and Nat­u­ral Ther­a­pies in the foothills of the Dan­de­nong Ranges, Up­wey, Vic­to­ria.

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