Change your per­spec­tive of re­al­ity and reach your po­ten­tial

Re­mem­ber, a lot of what you per­ceive as go­ing on ac­tu­ally isn't. So, be a qual­ity shop­per, stop mak­ing ex­cuses, and you'll change the way you see the world.

Living Now - - Editorial - By Carol Tal­bot

Re­mem­ber, a lot of what you per­ceive as go­ing on ac­tu­ally isn't.

Are you the kind of per­son who sees the glass half full or half empty? Do you ex­pe­ri­ence life as a chal­lenge to be en­dured or as an op­por­tu­nity to grow? Let’s say you go to a party with a cou­ple of friends. The next morn­ing you call one of them who pro­ceeds to tell you how aw­ful it was, that the mu­sic was ter­ri­ble, the cater­ers got it all wrong, and the peo­ple were dull. You then call another friend who also ac­com­pa­nied you to the party and they tell you how much they en­joyed it and they even ask for the num­ber of the cater­ers so they can use them at a fu­ture event! Is one of your friends ly­ing? Well ac­tu­ally, they are both right.

Swiss psy­chi­a­trist Carl Jung said that what­ever you per­ceive in other peo­ple, sit­u­a­tions, or events is sim­ply a pro­jec­tion of your­self. That means that there is never a prob­lem with a per­son, sit­u­a­tion, or event; it’s sim­ply your per­cep­tion. Your per­cep­tion is coloured by your val­ues, be­liefs, cul­ture, up­bring­ing, lan­guage, mem­o­ries, and ex­pe­ri­ences.

BE A QUAL­ITY SHOP­PER

It's easy to miss some­thing you are not look­ing for and it’s an un­for­tu­nate fact that we of­ten pay at­ten­tion to what’s wrong rather than what’s right. For in­stance, maybe you get no­ticed when you are late for work and no­body seems to care about all the times you’ve stayed late.

So what are you look­ing for that’s right in the world around you? Are you notic­ing and ap­pre­ci­at­ing the pos­i­tive be­hav­iour of those you spend time with?

I’d like to en­cour­age you to be a qual­ity shop­per. Af­ter all, when you go to the su­per­mar­ket do you look for the fruit and veg­eta­bles that are dis­coloured, over-ripe, and go­ing off? Of course not, you pick the fruit and veg­eta­bles that are ripe, juicy, and tasty. So be a qual­ity shop­per in life and look for the best!

YOUR WORLD IS YOUR MIR­ROR

The late Steven Covey said, “We do not see the world as the world is, we see the world as we are.” So just for a mo­ment, con­sider what your life looks like right now – Are you happy? Is it the way you want it?

Your outer world acts as a beau­ti­ful mir­ror to what you choose to think, and your outer world is a good in­di­ca­tor that you may need to change your thoughts.

Wendy is an ex­pe­ri­enced coach and shared that one of her clients (let’s call him Peter in the in­ter­est of con­fi­den­tial­ity), had a chal­leng­ing re­la­tion­ship with his father. Peter felt that his father was ar­ro­gant and con­trol­ling, so much so that Peter did not even want his own chil­dren to get to know their grand­fa­ther. Wendy sim­ply re­minded him that what he per­ceived and saw in his father was sim­ply a re­flec­tion of him­self. Peter was shocked to re­alise that he was be­hav­ing just like his father. By not al­low­ing his sons to get to know their grand­fa­ther he was be­ing ar­ro­gant and con­trol­ling. It was a huge wake-up call for Peter.

When you push your prob­lems away from your­self onto other peo­ple, events, and sit­u­a­tions, you are also push­ing away the so­lu­tions. It’s just another form of mak­ing ex­cuses. So stop mak­ing ex­cuses, stop pro­ject­ing it out­side your­self. Bring the prob­lem back in­side, and there you can tackle it and change it.

Re­mem­ber, a great deal of what you per­ceive as go­ing on out there in the world ac­tu­ally isn’t. You have the abil­ity to change how you ob­serve your world as well as the peo­ple and sit­u­a­tions in it. ■ The au­thor of Ama­zon In­ter­na­tional Best-seller, w , Carol is a pro­fes­sional speaker, sought-af­ter by or­gan­i­sa­tions and in­di­vid­u­als seek­ing a learn­ing con­sul­tant, thought-part­ner, and key­note speaker with a dif­fer­ence. Carol com­bines the edgi­ness of sys­tems such as NLP (Neuro-lin­guis­tic Pro­gram­ming) and Fire Walk­ing with the ‘coal face’ of business and life. Whether one-on-one or to an au­di­ence of thou­sands, Carol has helped in­di­vid­u­als and teams world­wide ig­nite their cre­ativ­ity and great­ness for more than two decades. She is also a Cer­ti­fied Trainer of Hyp­no­sis and a Cer­ti­fied Mas­ter Trainer of Time Line Ther­apy. Con­nect with other read­ers & com­ment on this ar­ti­cle at www.liv­ing­now.com.au

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