Change your per­spec­tive of re­al­ity and reach your po­ten­tial

Re­mem­ber, a lot of what you per­ceive as go­ing on ac­tu­ally isn't. So, be a qual­ity shop­per, stop mak­ing ex­cuses, and you'll change the way you see the world.

Living Now - - Editorial - By Carol Tal­bot

Re­mem­ber, a lot of what you per­ceive as go­ing on ac­tu­ally isn't.

Are you the kind of per­son who sees the glass half full or half empty? Do you ex­pe­ri­ence life as a chal­lenge to be en­dured or as an op­por­tu­nity to grow? Let’s say you go to a party with a cou­ple of friends. The next morn­ing you call one of them who pro­ceeds to tell you how aw­ful it was, that the mu­sic was ter­ri­ble, the cater­ers got it all wrong, and the peo­ple were dull. You then call another friend who also ac­com­pa­nied you to the party and they tell you how much they en­joyed it and they even ask for the num­ber of the cater­ers so they can use them at a fu­ture event! Is one of your friends ly­ing? Well ac­tu­ally, they are both right.

Swiss psy­chi­a­trist Carl Jung said that what­ever you per­ceive in other peo­ple, sit­u­a­tions, or events is sim­ply a pro­jec­tion of your­self. That means that there is never a prob­lem with a per­son, sit­u­a­tion, or event; it’s sim­ply your per­cep­tion. Your per­cep­tion is coloured by your val­ues, be­liefs, cul­ture, up­bring­ing, lan­guage, mem­o­ries, and ex­pe­ri­ences.


It's easy to miss some­thing you are not look­ing for and it’s an un­for­tu­nate fact that we of­ten pay at­ten­tion to what’s wrong rather than what’s right. For in­stance, maybe you get no­ticed when you are late for work and no­body seems to care about all the times you’ve stayed late.

So what are you look­ing for that’s right in the world around you? Are you notic­ing and ap­pre­ci­at­ing the pos­i­tive be­hav­iour of those you spend time with?

I’d like to en­cour­age you to be a qual­ity shop­per. Af­ter all, when you go to the su­per­mar­ket do you look for the fruit and veg­eta­bles that are dis­coloured, over-ripe, and go­ing off? Of course not, you pick the fruit and veg­eta­bles that are ripe, juicy, and tasty. So be a qual­ity shop­per in life and look for the best!


The late Steven Covey said, “We do not see the world as the world is, we see the world as we are.” So just for a mo­ment, con­sider what your life looks like right now – Are you happy? Is it the way you want it?

Your outer world acts as a beau­ti­ful mir­ror to what you choose to think, and your outer world is a good in­di­ca­tor that you may need to change your thoughts.

Wendy is an ex­pe­ri­enced coach and shared that one of her clients (let’s call him Peter in the in­ter­est of con­fi­den­tial­ity), had a chal­leng­ing re­la­tion­ship with his father. Peter felt that his father was ar­ro­gant and con­trol­ling, so much so that Peter did not even want his own chil­dren to get to know their grand­fa­ther. Wendy sim­ply re­minded him that what he per­ceived and saw in his father was sim­ply a re­flec­tion of him­self. Peter was shocked to re­alise that he was be­hav­ing just like his father. By not al­low­ing his sons to get to know their grand­fa­ther he was be­ing ar­ro­gant and con­trol­ling. It was a huge wake-up call for Peter.

When you push your prob­lems away from your­self onto other peo­ple, events, and sit­u­a­tions, you are also push­ing away the so­lu­tions. It’s just another form of mak­ing ex­cuses. So stop mak­ing ex­cuses, stop pro­ject­ing it out­side your­self. Bring the prob­lem back in­side, and there you can tackle it and change it.

Re­mem­ber, a great deal of what you per­ceive as go­ing on out there in the world ac­tu­ally isn’t. You have the abil­ity to change how you ob­serve your world as well as the peo­ple and sit­u­a­tions in it. ■ The au­thor of Ama­zon In­ter­na­tional Best-seller, w , Carol is a pro­fes­sional speaker, sought-af­ter by or­gan­i­sa­tions and in­di­vid­u­als seek­ing a learn­ing con­sul­tant, thought-part­ner, and key­note speaker with a dif­fer­ence. Carol com­bines the edgi­ness of sys­tems such as NLP (Neuro-lin­guis­tic Pro­gram­ming) and Fire Walk­ing with the ‘coal face’ of business and life. Whether one-on-one or to an au­di­ence of thou­sands, Carol has helped in­di­vid­u­als and teams world­wide ig­nite their cre­ativ­ity and great­ness for more than two decades. She is also a Cer­ti­fied Trainer of Hyp­no­sis and a Cer­ti­fied Mas­ter Trainer of Time Line Ther­apy. Con­nect with other read­ers & com­ment on this ar­ti­cle at www.liv­ing­

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