Feel­ing stuck? How to get go­ing again

Ac­tion cre­ates en­ergy and mo­ti­va­tion. Not the other way round. The se­cret is to keep mov­ing, just like when rid­ing a bi­cy­cle. But what hap­pens if one is to­tally stuck? How do we get back in the swing of things?

Living Now - - Editorial - by Jena Grif­fiths

But what hap­pens if one is to­tally stuck? How do we get back in the swing of things?

2600 years ago Bud­dha said, “Life is dukkha”. Although ‘ dukkha’ is usu­ally trans­lated as ‘suf­fer­ing’ it ac­tu­ally means ‘stuck wheel’; as in the wheel of an ox­cart stuck in the mud. With this in mind, let’s ex­plore six dif­fer­ent types of ‘stuck wheel’ that I ex­pe­ri­enced in my cy­cling days, what to do about each, how this may ap­ply to your par­tic­u­lar ‘stuck’ state, and how to get go­ing again.


1. Flat wheel

Think of the air in your tyres as ego. We need ego to keep us alive and to lessen the bumps in the road. If we are too de­flated we get stuck, but also if we are over-in­flated. If you ever go to watch a triathlon race go stand near the tran­si­tion zone. If it’s a hot day, chances are you’ll hear “bang” ev­ery now and then com­ing from where the bikes hang out be­fore the rid­ers fin­ish the swim. “Bang” means some poor ath­lete’s wheel has popped due to over-in­fla­tion. Per­haps this is also what hap­pens with too much ego. We ex­plode as soon as things get too heated and chances are, we aren’t even fully present yet when it hap­pens.

Punc­tures can be op­por­tu­ni­ties to con­nect. I once met an Ir­ish travel writer named Dervlah Mur­phy who cy­cled right down though Africa yet could not fix a punc­ture, let alone re­pair any­thing. I asked her how she man­aged and she said any mishap was an op­por­tu­nity to meet and be res­cued by the lo­cals. How many of us think that way in nor­mal life? We are so deter­mined to do it all on our own that we fail to al­low oth­ers the plea­sure of shin­ing.

2. Buck­led wheel

Think of your per­son­al­ity makeup as the dif­fer­ent spokes in your fly­wheel. You are not just one type, but a com­plex mix of many in­ter­wo­ven types. Each ‘spoke’ is a dif­fer­ent voice, a per­son­al­ity archetype, or strength. There al­ways needs to be a bal­ance. If one is too tight, too loose, or miss­ing, the wheel buck­les and gets stuck.

How to get go­ing again? Re­claim your ne­glected or dis­owned voices. How? Look at any per­son you ad­mire, or one you dis­like in­tensely or who frus­trates you. In some way they are mir­ror­ing back to you a dis­owned spoke even if the im­age is re­versed. Take what has hap­pened to the women’s move­ment since Trump was elected, for ex­am­ple. Mil­lions of women now feel en­livened. They have also re­gained their dis­owned voices, stand­ing their ground and even mov­ing for­ward while in­spir­ing bil­lions of oth­ers all around the globe.

In what way is each per­son you don’t like a mir­ror? Use the mir­ror to ac­tively ad­just your own po­si­tion and thank

who­ever is hold­ing the mir­ror for this amaz­ing act of ser­vice even though it wasn’t con­sciously in­tended. Look for some pos­i­tive as­pect in them, such as tak­ing rad­i­cal ac­tion or be­ing vo­cal. In what way is this a call to re­claim a dis­owned voice?

3. Crashes

Crashes hap­pen when we are not fully present. In a bike race, rid­ers cy­cle mil­lime­tres away from each other with­out crash­ing. How? They are in a flow state, mov­ing as one mind. We step out of flow states when we start wor­ry­ing about things that have noth­ing to do with now.

4. Iced road

If the road’s frozen or slip­pery, wheels of­ten don’t have a chance to turn. In­stead, they slide to­tally out of con­trol. This is called fear. There are no signs to re­mind you, the road con­di­tion is one’s state of mind.

5. Time to move on

This is a to­tally dif­fer­ent kind of stuck wheel. You may not recog­nise it at first or want to be­lieve it but once you have ex­pe­ri­enced it a few times you’ll recog­nise the signs. Like the time I found my­self scram­bling at the back of the pack in­stead of fly­ing up front. It wasn’t due to any wheel be­ing stuck but more due to loss of spirit. Noth­ing had changed ex­cept it was sim­ply time to move on. This stuck state is a case of over-at­tach­ment to iden­tity. The will to win was still there but the spirit spon­sor­ing my life was no longer will­ing.

6. Jammed gears

When you are get­ting hints to move on, mon­i­tor how this makes you feel. Do you take your­self to shame, guilt, fear, anger or frus­tra­tion? Each feel­ing state is a use­ful gear in a whole clus­ter of gears. They each have a pur­pose but need to be used at the right mo­ment.

When gears get jammed ev­ery­thing comes to a sud­den halt. This is what hap­pens when we get stuck in shame, guilt, fear or anger – we over-at­tach and fall over in­stead of us­ing each gear to shift to the next to gain more mo­men­tum.

7. Let­ting go of the brakes

We know it’s time to move on but we get stuck by think­ing we need to know in ad­vance what’s be­yond the next curve. And we don’t know! This is where the magic hap­pens. This is what some peo­ple call faith. We let go of the brakes and al­low the hub of the wheel to free­wheel. Life turns through us. We feel the wind in our hair again and laugh.

Or, as Thomas Huebl puts it: “Not know­ing where the ground will emerge when I take the next step is an act of love”.

Just keep mov­ing. “All heal­ing is a restora­tion of move­ment” says Huebl. Move­ment cre­ates chi, not vice versa. Stuck wheel is when we over­at­tach to what is, in­clud­ing the idea that we are stuck. Here’s a rad­i­cal thought: In what way is the idea you are stuck ac­tu­ally serv­ing you?

Say “yes” to what is. What­ever is in your way is your way.

We might think we’ll be faster if the road were flat­ter or all down­hill, but there’s no sum­mit with­out a climb. This is what we are here for any­way.

Joy, love, and ap­pre­ci­a­tion are the magic lu­bri­cants for what­ever is.

Usu­ally our stuck state is driven by a fear of loss. Ask your­self, “Am I mo­ti­vated by fear or by love?”

Get your body mov­ing. This cre­ates en­ergy and space around any prob­lem. Space for new in­spi­ra­tion to come in from a higher mind. ■

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Jena Grif­fiths is an ad­ven­turer in spirit liv­ing in Switzer­land and teach­ing in­ter­na­tion­ally.

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