GO SLOW TO SATISFY
Research finds men are still moving too fast between the sheets
Whether it’s rampant lust or a sneaky desire to catch the second half of the big game, guys continue to proceed with excessive haste in the bedroom, according to new findings.
Among women, the most popular duration for a sexual encounter is 30-plus minutes. Typically, however, sessions last about half that time, according to a survey of 1,200 Australians by lovehoney.com.au.
“At around five minutes [from initial arousal], men take considerably less time to reach orgasm,” says Lovehoney sexpert Annabelle Knight. “In contrast, around 20 minutes of continual stimulation is required to ensure your lady hits the big O.”
Which is stuff you probably know already from exquisite experience. So why are the necessary adjustments to our sexual pace so elusive?
While male overexcitement and a let’s-cut-to-the-chase attitude are probably the culprits in a proportion of truncated encounters, it’s also likely that an epidemic of work-related stress is diminishing men’s capacity to use a slow hand in the night hours, argues Knight.
“Train yourself to leave work at the door,” says Knight. “Couples that agree not to talk about work after, say, 8pm tend to enjoy much lengthier sexual encounters, as the period of respite allows them to clear their heads before bed.”
She’d appreciate a gentle pace.