JACK THE BARMAN
Straight-up advice on things that drive men crazy
Q A waitress at my bar seems to be hitting one me. How can I know? Wayne
If you’re old enough to drink in a bar, Wayne, you’re old enough to know when a woman is hitting on you. Two rules of thumb: if she’s working for tips and she’s being nice to you, you’re a customer and she’s doing her job. If she’s not working for tips but she’s being nice to you anyway, you’re a charity case and she’s a rehab volunteer. Either way, if you’re not sure she’s hitting on you, she’s not.
Q I don’t talk to my dad all that much (long story), but he sends me a fat cheque every year for my birthday. If I don’t cash it, I feel guilty. If I do cash it, I feel guilty. Is there a way out? Frank
Yes. Start talking to your dad. Like you, he’s just another guy lost on the planet. Be that guy – that son – who reaches out. If he cares enough to give you a cash prize, then accept it. Just say, “Thank you very much” and let yourself feel good about doing the right thing. And that long story? Wrap it up.