TRY LAVENDER Simple move: buy her a nice lavender-scented pillow. “This one was a life changer for me,” says O’reilly. Believe it or not, research suggests that lavender may increase activity in the brain areas linked with relaxation and cognitive arousal.
THINK 5-STAR Those shampoos and lotions you pilfer from nice hotels? Use them, says O’reilly. The scent will bring you both back. “When I use a certain cream from this resort in Mexico, my husband will say ‘You smell like Desire.’” (That’s the name of the resort.)