The Social Function
Just chuck down a few drinks, right? Wrong, says Ackland. “That just reinforces the ‘threat’. It says: ‘This situation is so bad I need to be tanked to give it a go’.” Okay, how? Work out why you’re fearful of the people in the room. Is it something that happened previously? “When we work out what it is that concerns us we can work through it and neutralise it,” says Ackland. If there’s no good reason, employ some coversation basics: introduce yourself to someone who’s alone and ask them a question. Listen to their answer, then try a follow-up. Now you’re chatting, and crucially, you’re part of the room rather than looking in.