Chil­dren need equal recog­ni­tion

Midwest Times - - NEWS - Rae­lene Hall

My hus­band and I have two sons and a daugh­ter — all adults now.

The boys have cho­sen to come back to the sta­tion where they are pre­par­ing to be the next gen­er­a­tion to take over.

We are in the process of set­ting up a suc­ces­sion plan for this to oc­cur in the next few years.

Our daugh­ter has opted for a ca­reer in ac­count­ing and lives in Perth.

We didn’t put pres­sure on them as to what de­ci­sion they made, although many peo­ple felt we were wrong in re­gards to the boys com­ing home di­rectly from board­ing school. How­ever they had to do what made them happy.

I just re­alised the other day there is one big dif­fer­ence though, in the way we have treated the three of them.

We ac­knowl­edged all three with grad­u­a­tion presents when they com­pleted Year 12. From there on, things changed. When our daugh­ter got into uni and a uni col­lege, we con­grat­u­lated and re­warded her.

When she grad­u­ated from uni, we did the same and just re­cently, when she re­ceived a pro­mo­tion at work, my first thought was, “what shall we do to ac­knowl­edge her achieve­ment?”

Yet our sons who have gone from young boys learn­ing con­stantly about run­ning a sta­tion to the men they are to­day, more than ca­pa­ble of run­ning the prop­erty with­out us, haven’t re­ally had the same ac­knowl­edge­ment.

Yes, they have had pay rises, but that’s not the same, as all work­ers get (or should get) reg­u­lar pay rises. We haven’t ac­tu­ally ac­knowl­edged their wonderful achieve­ments over the past 10-15 years.

Other peo­ple have, firstly by want­ing to con­stantly em­ploy our boys when we aren’t busy, and se­condly, by com­pli­ment­ing their work ethic, man­ners and be­hav­iour to us.

It makes us in­cred­i­bly proud, but I’m not sure we have done enough to make the boys aware of that. So we in­tend to rem­edy that soon — just how I’m not sure, but we will. It isn’t that our boys seek this ac­knowl­edge­ment or re­ward from us as par­ents. In fact I think they will prob­a­bly be to­tally em­bar­rassed.

But in their hearts I hope they will know that while they may not have any cer­tifi­cates on the wall or a for­mal ti­tle, we couldn’t be any more proud of them.

This is not about boys ver­sus girls, about who farms and who doesn’t. It’s about ac­knowl­edg­ing all our chil­dren equally.

Pic­ture: Jac­qui Bateman Pho­tog­ra­phy

The clan: Ken­neth, Clyde, Rae­lene, Kelly and Matthew Hall.

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