Q PEOPLE KEEP GIVING ME ADVICE ON HOW TO LOOK AFTER MY BABY, BUT I WANT TO FIND MY OWN WAY. WHAT CAN I DO?
A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST DR SALLY-ANNE MCCORMACK SAYS: They say knowledge is power, but as a new parent you can often be overwhelmed by the amount of advice you receive, especially when some seems contradictory! One way of managing this is to use the technique I call ‘coaching in positives’. Thank the person offering the advice (because from their point of view they’re being helpful). Then tell them you’re determined to find your own pathway through parenthood and that you’re aware you’ll have expert assistance when you need it, such as from your doctor. End with a positive, such as, “I’m glad I have support from you if I need to call on you.”