Help! I’m sleep-obsessive!
“If you are having trouble settling your baby or leaving him alone, think about what is stopping you from trusting him to sleep independently,” says Emma. Your baby may be getting the message that it isn’t safe to sleep, while going in and out of the room may be waking him up. “If we see sleeping through as a development milestone, the responsibility is removed from us,” says Emma. “We can create a soothing environment and a consistent bedtime routine, but we can’t force a baby to sleep. Trying to do this can lead to frustration for you and distress for the baby.” Relaxing our expectations can be a step in the right direction. “Forget about how your baby ‘should be sleeping’ and focus on what works for you,” says Emma. “Try to enjoy the sleepy snuggles and night feeds when it’s just you and him.” Take it day by day and things will improve (honest).