YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HOUSE BUT YOUR TODDLER IS RUNNING AWAY AND SCREAMING ‘NO!’ HOW CAN YOU GET HIM OUT THE DOOR? A Say ‘Right, that’s it. I’m, leaving now!’ and pretend to go out. B Give in to his tantrums and stay in to watch ABC Kids instead. C Be firm that you are leaving now and pick him up.
THE BEST OPTION: C
“Toddlers’ brains are not developed well enough to be motivated by the fear of being left alone, so don’t expect him to do what you say when you threaten to leave,” says Dr Fin. For an older toddler, use an activity as a negotiation tool. “Say, ‘If you do this now to help Mummy, then when we get back, we can set up a train track’. For a younger child, offer the option of choosing a toy to bring with him”. Then pick him up and leave.