YOUR TODDLER HAS JUST EMPTIED YOUR HANDBAG FOR THE FIFTH TIME. DO YOU… A Yell ‘stop doing that right now!’ before sobbing into your latte. B Relax and accept that yet another lip gloss has rolled under the fridge. C Take a deep breath, get down on his level and explain that he can play with his own toys, but if he does this, Mummy finds it difficult to find her things.
YOUR BEST OPTION: C
“You could find yourself doing all of the above, but your toddler is curious, and he learns about cause and effect through your reactions,” says clinical psychologist Dr Fin Williams. “Getting annoyed is pointless but ignoring it means he won’t learn boundaries.” So, explain why he can’t play with Mummy’s things, then take the handbag away. Instead, create a bag that he can play with, filled with toys.