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She’s an ac­tress who jug­gles a flour­ish­ing ca­reer, a gor­geous daugh­ter, a fash­ion brand, a blog and a suc­cess­ful re­la­tion­ship – yet Tam­min Sur­sok says her big­gest chal­lenge is man­ag­ing her own ex­pec­ta­tions. The Pretty Lit­tle Liars star, who re­veals she’s now ready for a sec­ond child, says the great­est thing she’s learned in the past year is to work on her ‘con­trol is­sues’. ‘The big­gest thing for me right now is ac­cept­ing that I’m not per­fect. That’s my jour­ney right now,’ she said. So does she shout? ‘I don’t think I’ve ever screamed at my daugh­ter, but I have at my hus­band.’ Tam­min, whose daugh­ter, Phoenix, with hus­band Sean Mcewen turns four this month, says she is very keen to add to her brood and is hop­ing a sec­ond child will be as adapt­able as her first. ‘Phoenix comes ev­ery­where with us,’ she says. ‘I don’t want my child to be raised by nan­nies, but we have to be re­al­is­tic. If she has to be cared for, for a short pe­riod of time while we work, that’s fine, be­cause in our jobs we get long pe­ri­ods of time to­gether as a fam­ily.’

While Phoenix has been on 56 flights in her four years, Tam­min ac­knowl­edges that hav­ing two chil­dren may make trav­el­ling to­gether a lot more dif­fi­cult.

‘Ev­ery child is dif­fer­ent, so we’ll just deal with one ob­sta­cle at a time,’ she says.

While she sets high stan­dards in terms of her daugh­ter’s diet and use of tech­nol­ogy, Tam­min be­lieves that ban­ning any­thing sets a child up to rebel. To that end, Phoenix is al­lowed short amounts of screen time and Tam­min is teach­ing her to read through ABC Read­ing Eggs Ju­nior – an on­line read­ing pro­gram for which she is an am­bas­sador.

‘It’s un­re­al­is­tic to keep kids off screens. They live in a dig­i­tal age and we need to be hon­est about that. I won’t let Phoenix on my iphone, but ed­u­ca­tional pro­grams on the ipad are per­fect.’

As for her own screen time, Tam­min is still post­ing reg­u­larly on her blog Bot­tle & Heels about ev­ery­thing from trav­el­ling with kids to be­ing sexy as a mum.

As she says: ‘When you be­come a mother, you don’t just dry up as a hu­man.’

Mum-of-two and so­cial com­men­ta­tor An­gela Mol­lard guides you through the thrills and spills of par­ent­hood

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