5 BODY LANGUAGE TRICKS... to get ahead
These expert-approved moves will have you succeeding every time!
Want to get what you want? Let your body do all the talking. According to UCLA research, only seven per cent of communication is based on the actual words we say – 38 per cent comes from tone of voice and a whopping 55 per cent comes from body language. Here are some tricks for success...
#1 Get the job you want
You’ve snagged the interview and now you need to show them that you are the right candidate for the job. Research from social psychologist Amy Cuddy has shown that by doing a couple of simple moves before the interview you can appear to be powerful and confident, and also lower stress. The power poses she recommends include raising your arms in a V and standing with your hands on your hips. Arrive a few minutes early, dash off to the bathroom and practise these, you’ll walk into the interview looking like a person in charge.
#2 Get the partner you want
You’re on a date and you want it to go well, what do you do? According to research, you should mirror behaviour – that is, copy your date’s body language and facial expressions. They call it the ‘chameleon effect’. In a New York University study, researchers found participants were more likely to say that they liked their partner when they had been mimicking each other’s body language and behaviour.
#3 Know when someone being genuine is
Want a sure-fire way to know if a friend or love interest is being sincere? Look at their eyes when they smile. Genuine smiles can be seen in the eyes, they crinkle the skin to create crow’s feet around them. Don’t be fooled by a bigger smile. Psychophysiologist Gary Schwartz and his colleagues found that manufactured smiles were on average 10 times bigger than genuine smiles, most likely because their point is to be seen.
#4 Make a sincere apology
According to Greg Hartley, a former US Army interrogator and a body language expert, to make an effective apology, you need to mind your chin. Hold it too high and you look indignant – if you hold it too low, you look weak. To exude both confidence and compromise, it’s important to keep your chin centred.
#5 The trick to showing willpower
It’s 3pm, you’re tired and grumpy. Someone gives you the choice of a chocolate bar or an apple, what do you take? According to a study published in the Journal of Consumer Research dieters who tensed their arm muscles were more likely to make the healthy choice.
‘Participants who were instructed to tighten their muscles, regardless of which muscles they tightened – hand, finger, calf, or biceps – while trying to exert self-control demonstrated greater ability to overcome tempting foods,’ the authors wrote.
Know whether a smile is genuine – it’s all about the eyes.