5 BODY LAN­GUAGE TRICKS... to get ahead

These ex­pert-ap­proved moves will have you suc­ceed­ing ev­ery time!

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Want to get what you want? Let your body do all the talk­ing. Ac­cord­ing to UCLA re­search, only seven per cent of com­mu­ni­ca­tion is based on the ac­tual words we say – 38 per cent comes from tone of voice and a whop­ping 55 per cent comes from body lan­guage. Here are some tricks for suc­cess...

#1 Get the job you want

You’ve snagged the in­ter­view and now you need to show them that you are the right can­di­date for the job. Re­search from so­cial psy­chol­o­gist Amy Cuddy has shown that by do­ing a cou­ple of sim­ple moves be­fore the in­ter­view you can ap­pear to be pow­er­ful and con­fi­dent, and also lower stress. The power poses she rec­om­mends in­clude rais­ing your arms in a V and stand­ing with your hands on your hips. Ar­rive a few min­utes early, dash off to the bath­room and prac­tise these, you’ll walk into the in­ter­view look­ing like a per­son in charge.

#2 Get the part­ner you want

You’re on a date and you want it to go well, what do you do? Ac­cord­ing to re­search, you should mir­ror be­hav­iour – that is, copy your date’s body lan­guage and fa­cial ex­pres­sions. They call it the ‘chameleon ef­fect’. In a New York Univer­sity study, re­searchers found par­tic­i­pants were more likely to say that they liked their part­ner when they had been mim­ick­ing each other’s body lan­guage and be­hav­iour.

#3 Know when some­one be­ing gen­uine is

Want a sure-fire way to know if a friend or love in­ter­est is be­ing sin­cere? Look at their eyes when they smile. Gen­uine smiles can be seen in the eyes, they crin­kle the skin to cre­ate crow’s feet around them. Don’t be fooled by a big­ger smile. Psy­chophys­i­ol­o­gist Gary Schwartz and his col­leagues found that man­u­fac­tured smiles were on av­er­age 10 times big­ger than gen­uine smiles, most likely be­cause their point is to be seen.

#4 Make a sin­cere apol­ogy

Ac­cord­ing to Greg Hart­ley, a for­mer US Army in­ter­roga­tor and a body lan­guage ex­pert, to make an ef­fec­tive apol­ogy, you need to mind your chin. Hold it too high and you look in­dig­nant – if you hold it too low, you look weak. To ex­ude both con­fi­dence and com­pro­mise, it’s im­por­tant to keep your chin cen­tred.

#5 The trick to show­ing willpower

It’s 3pm, you’re tired and grumpy. Some­one gives you the choice of a choco­late bar or an ap­ple, what do you take? Ac­cord­ing to a study pub­lished in the Jour­nal of Con­sumer Re­search di­eters who tensed their arm mus­cles were more likely to make the healthy choice.

‘Par­tic­i­pants who were in­structed to tighten their mus­cles, re­gard­less of which mus­cles they tight­ened – hand, finger, calf, or bi­ceps – while try­ing to ex­ert self-con­trol demon­strated greater abil­ity to over­come tempt­ing foods,’ the au­thors wrote.

Know whether a smile is gen­uine – it’s all about the eyes.

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