Be your own star

Cel­e­brate the best ver­sion of your­self

Northern Rivers Style - - CONTENTS - HE­LEN HAWKES

As I watched the lat­est awards cer­e­monies, fea­tur­ing a red car­pet full of im­pos­si­bly sparkly celebri­ties in glit­ter­ing gowns, I was en­thralled by the fake per­fec­tion of it all.

Flaw­less, wrin­kle-free skin, hair (and teeth) that shone so brightly they daz­zled the cam­eras. Stars who have looked the same for 30 years while the rest of us bat­tle with this hu­man thing called age­ing.

It’s a cu­ri­ous fact that these men and women are held up by many mag­a­zines as the epit­ome of hu­man achieve­ment (and, iron­i­cally, lam­pooned the next week).

They’re rich, they’re im­pos­si­bly good look­ing – in fact, very few re­sem­ble mere mor­tals – and, in their spare time, they work out with a per­sonal trainer, have colonics or drink su­per­green juices, visit chil­dren’s char­i­ties or save an­i­mals.

Hey, they’re Christie Brink­ley look­ing fab­u­lous on the cover of a sports mag­a­zine, in a barely there swim­suit, at 63 years of age. Yes, 63.

How can the rest of us pos­si­bly hope to com­pete?

But, peel back the gloss a bit, and you’ll find that be­ing a Hol­ly­wood star isn’t re­ally all it’s cracked up to be. When you’re put on a pedestal, there’s fur­ther to fall. And, what we for­get is, just like us, these peo­ple are hu­man and have their own chal­lenges to over­come.

To­day we are des­per­ately short of he­roes and hero­ines, per­haps the rea­son why we wor­ship Hol­ly­wood stars.

Vil­lains, we have plenty of, in­clud­ing crim­i­nals, politi­cians and ev­ery­day peo­ple be­hav­ing badly, in­creas­ingly on so­cial me­dia – trolls and racists – and on the global stage.

But we all need he­roes, and role mod­els, so we can be one our­selves.

Some­times just do­ing the day makes you a hero. Life can be hard, for ev­ery­one, but es­pe­cially those of us not gifted with in­cred­i­ble wealth or a life of ease. But it can also be won­der­ful.

So who are our real he­roes? What about those who risk their lives to help oth­ers in war zones or poverty, the thou­sands of women who stood up against US Pres­i­dent Don­ald Trump’s misog­yny when he was elected, the vol­un­teers who bring com­fort to the sick or el­derly, or in­deed, ev­ery sin­gle per­son who sur­vived the re­cent floods in Lis­more and Mul­lumbimby and who helped clean up, cook or who do­nated goods.

Real he­roes are ev­ery­one of us on our best days.

So, if you’re look­ing for role mod­els, look around, take ac­tion, speak up, stand up, and be­come one your­self.

In a world where there is plenty of good – and evil – we don’t need plas­tic surgery, ex­pen­sive clothes, or per­sonal chefs to be a per­son of value.

We are valu­able be­cause we are the best ver­sion of our­selves. Stay open to all the mir­a­cles and the abun­dances the uni­verse has to of­fer. Ex­pand your heart and your mind.

He­len Hawkes and Shirley Hughes run Life Makeovers, a coun­selling and coach­ing ser­vice that helps women get more en­ergy, re­alise their goals and deal with stress.

Phone 0403 805 001 or 0434 271 745.


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