A guide to avoid online confusion
WE all appreciate the importance of communicating well, so what are we to make of words such as ”ghosted”, “benched” or “haunted” in text messages? Or “slow fade” and “FBO”?
Welcome to the weird and wacky domain of online dating. If you’re new to using dating apps and Valentine’s Day is motivating you to discover “what’s out there”, read on for an update on dating lingo to avoid any confusion.
“Ghosting” according to Claire Certain, global head of trends at dating app Happn, is a most common word and refers to a situation when someone you are dating becomes silent, with no indication if they are still interested.
Ms Certain says ghosting can happen at any point in a relationship.
“Usually ghosts are simply too afraid of confrontation to tell you they aren’t interested in taking things further.”
A similar phenomenon but more drawn out is the “slow fade”, when someone you are chatting to or seeing gradually cuts you off, making less and less effort at being in touch.
”Benching” is when someone stops agreeing to meet, but continues to stay in contact on message and social media.
Ms Certain says people often keep someone on the bench while they play out their options.
“Tuning” or “tuners” on the other hand, refer to people who are still romantically interested, but are avoiding being upfront about it.
“Haunting” is where a romantic interest who previously ghosted you reappears, but without direct contact.
“Instead, they will like or follow your social media posts, haunting you in cyberspace to remind you they still exist.”
Ms Certain says if someone is “thirsty” they are needy to the point of desperation.
As for FBO, well, that’s “Facebook Official” – when you change your Facebook status to mirror a newly confirmed relationship.
Terms such as “talking” and “Netflix and Chill” are coded terms for casual dating.
To avoid a lingering “textlationship” Ms Certain encourages dating app users to meet in real life as soon as they feel comfortable to do so.
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