How to keep your love life on the right track
VALENTINE’S Day can make or break a new relationship — or it can pass without incident for those who don’t buy into the hype, relationship expert Nina Booysen says.
“Relationships where partners don’t feel appreciated for the other 364 days of the year can tend to hold out hope for Valentine’s Day,” she said.
“While we can all acknowledge that Valentine’s Day is a great commercial money spinner, there is a sense of romance at its core where couples have an opportunity to affirm their love for one another.”
Ms Booysen works as both a couples counsellor and sexual health practitioner.
“I see clients who are struggling in their relationships and often this includes their intimate lives,” she said.
“The most important thing for keeping a relationship healthy is for couples to put one another’s needs first and keep the relationship safe.
“This means that each person works at satisfying their partners needs without expecting anything in return, because it makes us feel good to do that.”
Ms Booysen said “betrayals” came in many different forms – and were not “just sexual”. “When a partner decides to not tell their significant other something, that is a betrayal,” she said.
“It can be as innocent as not disclosing buying an expensive pair of shoes or having gone to the pub with mates instead of working late.”
When it came to the bedroom, Ms Booysen said couples fell into the routine of what “works the easiest and quickest”.
“Take some time this Valentines to bring back some foreplay, try something a little different,” she said.