Quitting is not an option ... yet
Plan is that persistence will pay off in the long run
“Disappointments are inevitable. Setbacks will always happen. You won’t always win a place. You won’t always win a prize. You will not always be the best. You will not always come first. But there are more important things in life.”
HAVE kids, they said. It’ll be fun, they said. Well, they would be wrong. At least, it’s not fun all the time. But then again, what is? With the Ipswich Eisteddfod quite fresh in my mind (as it no doubt is for many other parents out there), let’s look at the activity of learning a musical instrument. Yes, there must be some element of fun. After all, what’s the point of learning it if you aren’t enjoying it? But at what point do you let you child call it quits? What happens, if, after hours of practice, they don’t get a place in the competition? They are discouraged. They don’t see the point of it all. They start questioning the whole point of the activity. There’s talk of quitting. Do you let them quit? I say, no. Well, at least not immediately. While the notion that you no longer have to listen to some questionable musicality if you let them quit is quite an attractive notion, what does letting them give up tell them about the challenges they will no doubt face later in life? Do they quit all their activities if they don’t win a place? Persistence, resilience, picking yourself up and carrying on after disappointment are more important than winning a place or coming first. Being a good person, being a good team player, improving your own skills, being better than you were yesterday – these things are more important than winning. As a parent, I want to raise a decent human being who is happy, well-adjusted, empathetic, resilient and who thinks. Letting them quit at the first disappointment or challenge isn’t the way in which this happens. Nothing is 100 % fun. Watching your child struggle is not fun. Watching them be disappointed is not fun. But some things are worth the not-fun bits.
TEAM PLAYER: Learning how to be part of a team is more important than winning.