Wedding season never seems to end
Ten years of attending marriage ceremonies hasn’t gotten old for Shannon Newley, she hopes for more
IWAS lucky enough to welcome this spring with a wedding.
My older brother, Matthew, married his long time love, Cristina, in what was the most special wedding I have attended. And that’s a big call.
I’ve been to what feels like a million weddings in the past 10 years.
First I worked my way through the unions of my slightly older then-boyfriend’s friends before my contingent of mates started to tie the knot.
More recently the friends of my younger now ex-boyfriend started down the path of a life together.
And yes, based on the number of exes I have already mentioned, you would be right in assuming none of these weddings have been my own.
Fortunately I love a good party and weddings generally include all of the things that make for a good party - food, booze and dancing. Unfortunately I have found myself unable to enjoy these parties as much as one would like as I have somehow found myself with tasks.
As someone who breezes in and out of people’s lives based on geography, working commitments and general laziness, I too am surprised that people would want to place me in charge of anything to do with their big day.
But I seem to have proven myself as that bridesmaid who manages to do the bare minimum fairly well. I turn up on time to get ready, wear the dress and shed the appropriate amount of happy tears. Beyond that I’m not much good.
Recently one of my dearest friends launched a sneak attack on me. Being one of the most organised people I know, I certainly wasn’t expecting her to include me in anything too special for her May 2018 wedding.
I thought perhaps I might be tasked a reading or be asked to turn on the music as she walked down the aisle - both seemed daunting to me.
She did however ask me to help her with some wedding dress shopping, but I thought that was perhaps because she knew I would tell her frankly if the dress wasn’t working.
The day before, however, she sent me a text telling me to bring the appropriate underwear to try on bridesmaid dresses.
At first I thought she may have asked me (and I agreed) after a few drinks and I’d forgotten, but after looking through recent communications, I realised it was surprise brides-maiding. I’m of course happy and honoured to oblige, even if bridesmaid tasks mean chipping in to my party time.
But hopefully I’ll be able to make up for that very soon with plenty more weddings.
With the marriage equality postal survey under way, I hope the result will mean there’s plenty more weddings to attend in the coming years.
And that’s my last word on that.
Wedding duties can still include a few bubbles here and there. From left, Emily Knox, Hazel Peffers, Jenna Cairney, Gillian Cairney, Shannon Newley and Alexandra Thompson.