I have this com­pul­sion to SAY HELLO TO EV­ERY­ONE I PASS

in the of­fice or on the street. This strikes me (and ev­ery­one else) as a lit­tle much, but I can’t seem to stop. How weird is this?

Reader's Digest Asia Pacific - - Psychology -

Maybe you come f rom a friendly place. Psy­chol­o­gist Ruan lived for a while in a city where peo­ple were very friendly and chatty, even from the next stall in the pub­lic toi­let. “One wo­man started talk­ing to me,” says Ruan, “and I was like, ‘We’re sup­posed to pre­tend we can’t see each other’s feet! You’re ru­in­ing the so­cial norms here!’ But that’s the way they were – su­per friendly.”

If your goal is to tone down your greet­ing, try sim­ply ac­knowl­edg­ing oth­ers with a friendly smile as you pass each other. On the other hand, “not ev­ery­thing has to be an­a­lysed,” says Dr Aaron Pinkhasov, a spe­cial­ist in be­havioural health. The prob­lem re­ally is not how you greet passers-by; it’s whether you’re be­com­ing so self-con­scious about it that you are start­ing to avoid en­coun­ters en­tirely, by tak­ing cir­cuitous routes or stay­ing at your desk, for ex­am­ple.

If that’s hap­pen­ing, re­mem­ber that be­ing friendly is no crime. N or N Rat­ing: 1 All you need is a good greet­ing strat­egy.

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