South Burnett Times - - MIND - MIND YOU WORDS: ROWENA HARDY Rowena Hardy is a fa­cil­i­ta­tor, per­for­mance coach and part­ner of Minds Aligned: mind­saligned.com.au

How grate­ful are you in gen­eral? It’s easy enough to be grate­ful when every­thing is go­ing well, when you’re fit and healthy and have money com­ing in but what about the times when every­thing seems to be go­ing wrong?

You lose your job or ex­pe­ri­ence a ma­jor health risk? It’s def­i­nitely more chal­leng­ing to stay in the ‘at­ti­tude of grat­i­tude’ at those times.

I would say that, gen­er­ally, I’m very pos­i­tive and grate­ful but I do catch my­self oc­ca­sion­ally be­com­ing rather grumpy, a re­cent ex­am­ple be­ing when my con­nect­ing flight was can­celled on the way to run a workshop, which caused an even longer tran­sit time in Bris­bane than I had an­tic­i­pated.

I quickly recog­nised that I was travel weary and frus­trated and ac­cepted the fact that the sit­u­a­tion was to­tally out of my con­trol, and turned my fo­cus in­stead to what I was grate­ful for in that mo­ment.

Be­ing able to fly rather than hav­ing to drive, the op­por­tu­nity to work with a new team in a new lo­ca­tion and that I wasn’t stuck some­where in a re­mote lo­ca­tion with no ac­cess to food, wa­ter or com­mu­ni­ca­tion, all came up for me.

It can be all too easy to get caught up in the busy­ness of life and the com­par­i­son and com­pe­ti­tion that seems to be part of it and we may feel that what we have isn’t enough and al­ways want more. Whether it’s the next best gad­get, car, job or part­ner, we may feel de­prived if we are de­nied. We end up lack­ing ap­pre­ci­a­tion or grat­i­tude for what we have al­ready, tak­ing things and peo­ple for granted, be­liev­ing that they will al­ways be avail­able and ac­ces­si­ble for us on a whim. But that’s not what hap­pens.

We lose peo­ple we love or our home, our sav­ings, our liveli­hood or our health with no warn­ing and are pro­pelled into an un­cer­tain fu­ture. Any of these things can hap­pen to any of us at any time and our abil­ity to be grate­ful for any­thing may dis­ap­pear just as sud­denly.

Yet it can be amid such hard­ship or mas­sive change that we are given the op­por­tu­nity to re­flect and re­dis­cover the small gems we are grate­ful for that may have been over­looked in the past dur­ing our busy­ness.

Life has a way of giv­ing us the lessons we need at the time we need them and one of those may be that we learn to ap­pre­ci­ate the pos­i­tives that have been there all along. We have missed or taken them for granted like time with loved ones, fol­low­ing our in­ter­ests, daily con­nec­tion or just be­ing able to pay the bills and still have money left over.

Mak­ing grat­i­tude a reg­u­lar prac­tice can change our per­spec­tive on life and lift our en­tire day. Who or what are you most grate­ful for in your life?

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