Sunday Herald Sun - Body and Soul - - HEALTH DEBATE -

Over the cen­turies, hun­dreds of sub­stances have been pur­ported to have de­sire-arous­ing qual­i­ties, but sadly none has ever been proven to ac­tu­ally work.

The most pow­er­ful aphro­disiac does not come in a po­tion or pill, but in the form of a lov­ing, ful­fill­ing re­la­tion­ship based on good com­mu­ni­ca­tion, com­mit­ment and car­ing. Once you have that most es­sen­tial in­gre­di­ent, there are many ways to fur­ther en­hance the sex­ual ex­pe­ri­ence and pro­mote de­sire. These in­clude en­sur­ing you op­ti­mise your phys­i­cal, emo­tional and psy­cho­log­i­cal well­be­ing and take care of your re­la­tion­ship.

En­hance your phys­i­cal well­be­ing with ad­e­quate rest as well as ex­er­cise and good gen­eral nutrition. Op­ti­mise your emo­tional well­be­ing by work­ing on your self-es­teem, sex­ual self-es­teem and body im­age. Al­low your­self to en­joy plea­sur­able sex­ual thoughts and fan­tasies to cre­ate sex­ual an­tic­i­pa­tion.

Cre­ate a con­ducive at­mos­phere by set­ting aside a time and a place where you will not be dis­tracted and where you can be com­fort­able and re­laxed enough to feel play­ful, amorous and ad­ven­tur­ous.

The best way to en­hance each per­son’s de­sire varies ac­cord­ing to the in­di­vid­ual, how­ever in gen­eral, women tend to re­spond favourably to ro­man­tic ges­tures such as flow­ers, thought­ful lit­tle gifts and com­pli­ments, af­fec­tion, com­mu­ni­ca­tion and qual­ity time, whereas men tend to re­spond more to va­ri­ety and nov­elty in love­mak­ing, spon­tane­ity, lin­gerie, nu­dity and erot­ica.

All these things may seem some­what clichéd or even friv­o­lous and su­per­fi­cial, but all that re­ally mat­ters is that you fig­ure out what works for you and your part­ner and ac­cept and re­spect what works for oth­ers, even if it doesn’t ap­peal to you.

In­deed, by far and away the most im­por­tant and es­sen­tial el­e­ments in en­hanc­ing sex­ual de­sire (apart from ba­sic phys­i­cal at­trac­tion in the first place) are ac­cep­tance, re­spect, trust and com­mu­ni­ca­tion.

Be­ing able to com­mu­ni­cate your re­spec­tive de­sires and hav­ing mu­tual ac­cep­tance and re­spect is a good start for any sex­ual re­la­tion­ship and far more ben­e­fi­cial than a kilo of oys­ters, gin­seng, rhi­noc­eros horn or ground tigers’ tes­ti­cles.

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