DO THIS INSTEAD:
Seek out challenge, even if it’s uncomfortable. If we make chasing happiness our life-long state, we also tend to avoid things that challenge us.
“We’re now telling ourselves to run away from things that don’t make us feel good, but this then limits our ability to evolve and grow as human beings,” Fraser says.
He recommends reframing happiness in your mind so that you stop focusing on it as a state rather than the emotion it is. “Instead of asking yourself ‘Am I happy?’, ask ‘Am I feeling fulfilled?’, ‘Am I challenging myself?’, and ‘Am I evolving as a person?’” he says.