How i make it work... KIM MUK­ER­JEE

AS A CHILD, KIM GREW UP SUR­ROUNDED BY DO­MES­TIC VI­O­LENCE. NOW AGED 56, HE IS DE­TER­MINED TO END THE CYCLE OF ABUSE AS A WHITE RIB­BON AM­BAS­SADOR

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Igrew up in Lon­don in the 1960s and 1970s. My child­hood was rea­son­ably bro­ken and, be­cause of that, I was quite a sen­si­tive and shy child. My fa­ther was a dom­i­neer­ing man who had to have things his own way. He phys­i­cally abused my mother to the point that she left him when I was three. I kept in touch with him un­til the age of eight, when he se­verely beat me. I didn’t see him again un­til I was 20.

My mum later mar­ried a man from the East End of Lon­don who was a sailor and a drinker. As I grew up, he be­came pro­gres­sively more of an al­co­holic and was an ag­gres­sive drunk. I would avoid con­ver­sa­tions with him af­ter he’d been on the bot­tle.

I think we learn our values at an early age from our par­ents; as far as role mod­els go, the morals of my step­fa­ther were not the great­est. Grow­ing up in a house­hold like that made me vul­ner­a­ble. I was sex­u­ally abused twice, as a nine-year-old and as a young teenager.

I want to be a good role model for my son and daugh­ter. My daugh­ter is liv­ing with me and I think it’s very im­por­tant to show her love, af­fec­tion and sup­port – the things I didn’t get as a child. I want to pro­vide an en­vi­ron­ment where she can grow as a per­son and be­come a strong, in­de­pen­dent wo­man who is re­spected, loved and treated well by every­one she meets – par­tic­u­larly men.

Some­thing that re­ally con­cerns me is the vi­o­lence and ag­gres­sion to­wards women we see ev­ery day in the press. The statis­tics on in­ti­mate part­ner vi­o­lence in Aus­tralia are hor­ren­dous. One wo­man is killed each week and this is the tip of the ice­berg. We’re sup­posed to be a civilised so­ci­ety, yet this is go­ing on. It’s al­most at epi­demic pro­por­tions and I want to do some­thing about that.

I be­came a White Rib­bon am­bas­sador 18 months ago to help raise aware­ness. I’ve done some fundrais­ing and have been asked to speak to a group of 16- to 18-year-old high-school kids. When I’m fundrais­ing at foot­ball matches, it’s in­ter­est­ing how many men don’t make eye con­tact with me. I don’t know if they’re un­com­fort­able be­cause we have a prob­lem in Aus­tralia, or be­cause it’s go­ing on in their own home. I want men to stand up and talk about it; to recog­nise we have an is­sue here and that we need to do some­thing about it.

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HAPPY FEET

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SOUNDS JUST RIGHT

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