Harold David on liv­ing in a same-sex fam­ily.

THE AUS­TRALIAN FASH­ION PHO­TOG­RA­PHER BE­CAME A DAD TO TWIN BOYS VIA AN IN­DIAN SUR­RO­GATE. NOW, AS HIS SONS TURN FIVE, HE OPENS UP ABOUT RAIS­ING CHIL­DREN IN A SAME-SEX FAM­ILY

Sunday Herald Sun - Stellar - - Contents - as told to Al­ley Pas­coe West­field’s A/W ’17 cam­paign is out now; west­field.com.au/fash­ion.

Ial­ways thought I’d be a dad. How I went about that was a bit more com­pli­cated than the back of a Chevy. I ar­ranged a sur­ro­gate through an agency in In­dia and had my sons, Franklin and Henry, in 2012. I did it as a sin­gle fa­ther and then I met my part­ner Andy, a per­former and teacher, nine months later. Now he’s a fa­ther, too.

When I first met Andy I was with my kids and he didn’t see me, he just saw them. It was so im­me­di­ate. He loved them straight away. I strug­gled a bit with shar­ing the boys in the be­gin­ning, but the more I got to know Andy, I felt re­ally at ease with the whole sit­u­a­tion. Now, I am grate­ful to have some­one to share those re­spon­si­bil­i­ties with.

We’re your run-of-the-mill, nor­mal fam­ily. Life is non-stop. I’ve al­ways been a good multi-tasker and those skills have been es­sen­tial in rais­ing twins. Be­tween Andy and my­self we’ve man­aged to get it all done, but there is never a day that goes by where I don’t sweat.

We have never had a neg­a­tive ex­pe­ri­ence as a same-sex fam­ily. We did a road trip through Texas, which is very right-wing Repub­li­can, last year and ev­ery­one was lovely. One day we were strolling with the kids through Marfa, Texas; we were try­ing to find a good cof­fee shop, which isn’t easy in the US. I was at the end of my tether when a pick-up truck parked right in front of us. An old cow­boy got out, and the first thing he said was, “Where’s the mama?” I thought, “Oh no, here we go.” Andy said, “There’s no mama – we’re two dads.” And the cow­boy said, “Looks like you’re do­ing a good job,” and walked off.

Gay rights have come so far but we’ve got a way to go for equal­ity, and with the cur­rent US po­lit­i­cal cli­mate it feels like it’s stalled and about to go back­wards. I’m wor­ried for not only my fam­ily, but all of us.

I wanted to be a part of West­field’s new Fam­ily cam­paign be­cause it’s such

an eclec­tic mix of peo­ple. I think it’s im­por­tant for busi­nesses to show the di­ver­sity of fam­i­lies in Aus­tralia and how we all re­ally live. The cam­paign is pretty pro­found.

Be­ing a dad is re­lent­less, but I say that with a big smile on my face. Go­ing into it, I didn’t know what “hard” was, but I don’t think I re­ally knew what “love” was ei­ther. Life is much more full.

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