Sunday Herald Sun - Stellar - - Front Page - Amanda Keller co-hosts the Jonesy & Amanda Break­fast Show, 6am week­days on WSFM, and The Liv­ing Room, 7.30pm Fri­days on Net­work Ten.

eller’s two sons, Liam, 17, and Jack, 15, were hard won. She chron­i­cles her and Oliver’s strug­gle to have a child in her mem­oir Nat­u­ral Born Keller with such can­dour it’s im­pos­si­ble not to be moved. Along with the in­jec­tions, the gen­eral anaes­thet­ics for egg har­vest­ing and the long pe­ri­ods of wait­ing to learn that yet an­other em­bryo had failed to take, her rec­ol­lec­tion of a ra­dio prank gone wrong is sear­ingly painful.

As she re­counts the episode nearly two decades on, Keller’s face still drains. She and Den­ton were on hol­i­day from their Triple M Syd­ney break­fast show and Jonesy was stand­ing in when a caller phoned in to a reg­u­lar seg­ment called The Ru­mour Mill to re­port that Amanda Keller was preg­nant. Hav­ing been as­sured by a pro­ducer that the call was funny, Jonesy put it to air only to be told by the caller that she had seen Keller com­ing out of an ul­tra­sound clinic. Be­fore long, friends be­gan call­ing the ra­dio host to ask if she was ex­pect­ing.

“I was apoplec­tic,” Keller says. “Those IVF cy­cles were so hard and to have that stab come from inside the camp – from the peo­ple who should most pro­tect us – was dev­as­tat­ing. It was a per­fect storm of some­thing fall­ing through the cracks. Jonesy wrote me a let­ter to apol­o­gise, but I didn’t have the words to re­spond.”

The friend­ship sur­vived, but Keller’s eyes still fill with tears as she re­calls the years where she and Oliver had to ac­cept they might never have kids. Even now, as the boys come hurtling in af­ter school, she pauses and thinks back to when they were just an im­pos­si­ble dream. “I look at those hairy legs com­ing through the door and I just can’t be­lieve it.”

She re­cently went to a univer­sity open day with Liam and is com­ing to terms with her sons grow­ing up. “We first saw Liam when he was just eight cells. Now he’s this fully formed thing. I feel I’m at the end of it [par­ent­ing] and I want to hold on to it.”

Keller has long re­fused to buy into mother’s guilt. “I’ve told them that if some­thing mat­ters to them, they have to tell me and I’ll drop ev­ery­thing to be there.” She grins: “You know, some­thing like their wed­ding day… If I’ve got a free morn­ing I might pop in.”

That’s not to say it’s all smooth sail­ing – she strug­gles with the rel­e­vance-de­pri­va­tion feel­ings that strike many par­ents of teens, re­call­ing how one evening re­cently her el­dest ne­glected to tell her he loved her when she said good­night. “I tried not to be needy, but I came back down­stairs and told him that when I say, ‘I love you,’ he’s sup­posed to say it back. He told me he wasn’t a ro­bot, but I ex­plained that some­times I just need to hear it from him.”

As for her re­la­tion­ship with Oliver, 11 years her se­nior, she says she has a fresh ap­pre­ci­a­tion for en­dur­ing re­la­tion­ships af­ter read­ing Alain de Bot­ton’s novel The Course Of Love. “As he says, we cel­e­brate the be­gin­ning of re­la­tion­ships and the break-ups, but it’s that long haul in the mid­dle that is rarely writ­ten about and never gets made into films. There are not enough ac­co­lades for sur­viv­ing the long haul.”

The pair clearly adore each other but, af­ter 28 years, Keller says she doesn’t ex­am­ine the re­la­tion­ship ev­ery day. She recog­nises Oliver’s mood might be to­tally un­re­lated to her and tries not to pick a fight af­ter a glass of wine.

She also ac­cepts she of­ten comes in af­ter a morn­ing on the ra­dio and bosses her hus­band about like he’s staff. “My pace is bang, bang, bang, and I’ve got a list of things that need to be done. I need to take a breath and change pace when I’m com­ing into the house.” So, does she do that? She smirks: “No, I don’t.”

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