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Sunday Mail - Body and Soul - - YOU & YOURS -

The Depart­ment of Hu­man Ser­vices re­moved me from my par­ents at the age of 13. I’m now 34 and I’ve spent years soul search­ing to work through my toxic child­hood. I cut my fa­ther off due to past abuse and I’ve more re­cently cut my mother off due to on­go­ing harm­ful com­mu­ni­ca­tion and al­co­holic part­ners. How can I find peace in my heart with my de­ci­sions? Try to have a de­tached at­ti­tude and go on a fact-find­ing mis­sion. Things may have got bet­ter, not changed or got worse. But at least you’ll know whether con­tact is the health­i­est thing for you. Then let go of any judg­ments and ac­knowl­edge that your par­ents are do­ing the best they can. That should de­ter­mine whether hav­ing them in your life is too de­struc­tive for you. Pro­fes­sional coun­selling could help.

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