Lack of intimacy. Many marriages consist of two isolated and lonely individuals. Emotional intimacy is vital. This includes asking each other: “How are you really?”. Connection to each other is essential. It’s the purpose of marriage. Some couples don’t ask scary questions such as, “What’s wrong?” in case the problem is them. Emotional intimacy transcends that fear; you know it’s better to know what is hurting your partner than not risking being told something uncomfortable. It means taking in what’s being said and acknowledging that you understand.