ASK THE SEXOLOGIST… “Should we try to be more romantic?”
question: My husband and I have two young children, but because we don’t have family nearby and little spare cash, the two of us never go out. The end result is that we have no romantic time. Is this normal? answer: Couples must spend intimate time together, because it is the foundation of their relationship. It’s from this foundation that a couple builds a family and shares a life.
According to research, a whopping 71 per cent of Australians don’t go on a regular date night. It’s not surprising, though, due to our busy lives. But even though the majority of couples don’t do date nights, the majority of them need that time to rekindle.
Date nights do not have to be extravagantly romantic, or even involve going out. The most important ingredients are that you spend time together and focus on each other.
It’s good to have fun to reconnect and enjoy yourselves as a couple and that can be at dinner and a movie, or it can be cooking together at home, after the kids have gone to bed, and watching a DVD.
You may not be in a position to go out, but you could start a hobby at home that you can share together. Or make every effort to have a romantic evening at least once a month.
A weekly or fortnightly date night might feel like a bit much if you haven’t been making room for it at all in your lives, so start slow. You’ll find even just part-time prioritising each other will spark more thought and anticipation about date nights and romantic rendezvous and that momentum will grow.
So, yes, you are normal, but since normal couples aren’t dating and romancing each other enough, aim a little higher and your results will be a little hotter than the lukewarm average. + Got a question for Dr Gabrielle Morrissey? Send your query to bodyandsoul. com.au/askourexperts