Looking for love
ADA Nicodemou loves being in love. And all she wants is make sure all her friends are able to experience the same feeling.
“I think everyone does want to be in love. I think there is a special person out there for everyone. I do try really hard to matchmake my friends. I can’t say I have had any success stories but it is a work in progress,” Nicodemou said.
As the host of the second season of reality- dating show Please Marry My Boy, Ada sees fi rst- hand just how hard it is to fi nd the perfect match.
The Seven Network series – which sees mothers get involved in helping their sons fi nd a potential life partner – is traditional in its approach, which is something the Home
and Away star approves of. “I have always been of the belief a man should chase a woman and a woman should always be respectful,” she said.
“I’m a very strong woman and I know what I want but I am not going to ask a man out on a date, a man should ask me out on a date.”
Nicodemou, who has been married to Chrys Xipolitas for more than six years, said she appreciates there is a lot of pressure on women when they aren’t in a committed relationship to multi- date and give everything up while trying to fi nd a partner.
But she believes women should never lose respect for themselves.
“I think however things are changing out there in the world, why can’t you still be a gentleman and a lady? I won’t be bringing my children up like that, it’s all about selfrespect,” she said.
“I think we should be teaching that and I think a man respects that.
“I think men who want to get married will seek out that type of girl and I think all girls, in their heart, want to be swept away,” she said.
“If someone is seeing other people at the same time as you, isn’t that about selfrespect, you allowing that person to see other people at the same time as you?”
Nicodemou speaks with some authority on the subject of what makes romance blossom, having presented last year’s series. She said this season of Please Marry My
Boy is all about being real. The women were thoroughly vetted to make sure they could make a potential perfect partner for the men on the program and aren’t just courting a television profi le.
“I think viewers are really smart these days and they know when something is a gimmick and something is real,” she said.
“We have watched way too much reality television; we’re all clued onto it.
“You want to be invested in the story; you want them to genuinely want love and realise they aren’t just doing it for TV.
“Viewers are genuinely insulted when someone tries to make out it isn’t what it is.”
This season the number of men looking for love is down to three, with more time devoted to getting to know the contestants.
“You get to know the families better and you can stay with the same house for longer. It feels a lot more realistic,” Nicodemou said.
“It is defi nitely a lot warmer and it is nice to be working on something and watching it as a viewer as I get to [ narrate] all the episodes. There are no car crashes and no people dying, nor is it trashy or people bagging other people. It is just all about love.”
This year’s trio of lovelorn blokes includes model Nathan Secomb, whose mother Doreen has staunch Christian beliefs. Then there’s Carlo Cimino, 41, looking for “the one” with the help of Italian mum Maria.
Finally, there’s Brad King, whose mother Margaret’s acidic one- liners are all meant with a kind heart.
As episode three looms on Thursday, the cracks are starting to appear. The women have already been secretly vetted by the men’s fathers on speed dates ( the dads posed as waiters) to fi nd out what the women really thought of their boys.
The dads feature again this week, unsettling the would- be brides further as the three mums try to discover what they would be like around their potential future grandchildren. It’s as awkward as it is revealing. Nicodemou is just glad she doesn’t have to worry about the dating game for a few years yet with her own son.
“Thank God I don’t have to worry about it now,” she said.