Set to break hearts

Sunday Tasmanian - Tassie Living - - FRONT PAGE -

IF YOU be­lieve some of the sto­ries, Tim Ro­bards might be the one your mother warned you about. Since the 30- year- old Syd­ney- based chi­ro­prac­tor and part- time model was named the lead­ing man of Aus­tralia’s first ver­sion of the re­al­ity- TV search for love, the claims have flown thick and fast.

But on the eve of Chan­nel Ten’s The Bach­e­lor Aus­tralia ex­per­i­ment, Ro­bards says he is not a player, nor a fame- hun­gry man- about- town who broke up with his girl­friend to join the show.

And he in­sists he is gen­uine in us­ing The Bach­e­lor to find love and a re­la­tion­ship akin to that of his par­ents, who have chalked up more than three decades of mar­riage.

“My mum and dad have just had their 33rd wed­ding an­niver­sary. I’d love to have that. To have that love and some­one to share all they have ... just height­ens the big mo­ments of your life,” he says.

Tak­ing the claims head- on, Ro­bards says, “like any guy, I’ve dated dif­fer­ent girls”.

“I’ve never been a per­son who just goes out and picks up and that’s it.

“I have al­ways been search­ing for a girl I can fall in love with and have some­thing se­ri­ous with.

“How­ever, if peo­ple in­ter­pret that, that is some­thing I can’t do much about.”

He said it wasn’t true that he broke up with his ex­girl­friend to go on the show. “The show came along af­ter we broke up,” he said. “Pos­si­bly through the show, peo­ple will get a bet­ter un­der­stand­ing of who I am and not just what they read or hear.”

The first peo­ple he went to when ap­proached to be­come The Bach­e­lor were his par­ents.

“They are the ones I go to when I am in a po­si­tion where I’m wrestling with some­thing big,” he says.

“And this is one of the big­gest things I have done in my life.

“They gave me the confi dence I could do this, be­cause you are open­ing your­self up to judg­ment. I am a very open per­son with my clients and friends, but be­ing open to all of Aus­tralia is a whole new level of open­ness.

“Dad asked how I wanted to be per­ceived and pre­sented. I said as long as I can be down- to- earth, in­tel­li­gent and hon­est, be­cause that’s who I am, I was ready to take this on as a search for love.

“I had met with pro­duc­ers and they con­vinced me they wanted to create a show about two peo­ple fall­ing in love. The re­sult was my par­ents telling me ‘ just to be true to your­self’.”

Ro­bards has dis­cov­ered anew dur­ing shoot­ing that break- ups are never easy to do.

With 25 girls put up as po­ten­tial matches for him to choose from, and him forced to choose one to leave the show each week, he says he has come to know even more about him­self.

“With ev­ery re­la­tion­ship I have had – and there have been some beau­ti­ful re­la­tion­ships – you find out more about your­self and what your own val­ues are,” he says.

“It’s the same in the show, but there’s just less time to do it.

“Where nor­mally on a date there’d be fluffy, light con­ver­sa­tion, you have to get into the nitty- gritty quickly as to what makes these girls tick, what their val­ues are, what things have hap­pened in their life to make them who they are.

“There’s not a lot of time to make that con­nec­tion, but I think ma­tu­rity drives you closer to know­ing what you are look­ing for.”

Farewelling a woman each week has be­come in­creas­ingly tough.

“In real life, I don’t think I’ve ever had an easy break- up. It doesn’t mat­ter who ini­ti­ates it, good­byes are hard,” he says.

“On the show, the first few good­byes were awk­ward, but OK, be­cause you’re not that in­vested.

“But as you get fur­ther in, you form feel­ings that go be­yond friend­ship.” He hopes, ul­ti­mately, to find love. “I’m big on omens, and this show felt like an omen I needed to go with. I thought it would be some­thing I would re­gret if I didn’t do it,” Ro­bards says.

“Yes, you get judged, peo­ple will talk about you, but I think there are a lot of pos­i­tives that could come out of it.”

He might be open about his search, but ahead of the show, he has no plans to kiss and tell.

“Have I kissed any­one yet? You’ll have to wait and see,” he laughs. THE BACH­E­LOR AUS­TRALIA TDT, Sun­day and Mon­day, 7.30pm

DEB­BIE SCHIPP ON THE MAR­KET: Tim Ro­bards says he’s gen­uine about fi nd­ing love through The Bach­e­lor Aus­tralia.

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from Australia

© PressReader. All rights reserved.