I’M LOOK­ING FOR LOVE

Jac­qui opens up about search for ‘the right bloke’

Sunday Tasmanian - - Front Page - DAVID BENIUK

JAC­QUI Lam­bie is play­ing the dat­ing game, and even dream­ing of mar­riage, as she looks for love af­ter quit­ting the Se­nate.

The rebel with a cause has a new cause and has been trawl­ing the apps to find a man.

“I’m in this for real,” she tells the Sun­day Tas­ma­nian.

“Plenty of my friends, lovely women who are sin­gle in the mid­dle of life, have given up.

“I re­alised I’m not pre­pared to give up, at least not yet.”

Ms Lam­bie re­veals she has been sin­gle for 15 years, and flicked off the ro­mance switch dur­ing that pe­riod.

Now she is look­ing for a part­ner, best friend and, yes, even­tu­ally a hus­band.

“It’s time I get se­ri­ous and to do some­thing that is re­ally im­por­tant to me — get mar­ried and see it all the way through, the good and the bad,” she says.

As part of a deal with a ma­jor tele­vi­sion net­work, Ms Lam­bie has been filmed speed dat­ing in Launceston and at­tend­ing a B&S ball in ru­ral NSW.

And she’s given a glimpse into her more vul­ner­a­ble side.

“When it comes to love it’s all about open­ness and trust, but you’ve got to trust your­self that you can find the right bloke,” she says.

Jac­qui Lam­bie is look­ing for love — and she is tak­ing a na­tional TV au­di­ence along for the ride. To­day, the for­mer Tas­ma­nian se­na­tor re­veals, in her own words, the search for a hus­band and a “best friend for the rest of my life”.

YES, it’s true. Just like any­one else out there, I’m look­ing for love. So I am trav­el­ling around Aus­tralia and I’m play­ing the dat­ing game.

If that con­cept wasn’t al­ready scary enough, I’ve de­cided to share my quest on na­tional tele­vi­sion, as a guest re­porter with the Sun­day Night pro­gram.

I guess it’s in the hope of in­spir­ing other women who, just like me, might be feel­ing a lit- tle lonely and un­sure about where to even be­gin in their search for a part­ner.

It’s time I get se­ri­ous and to do some­thing that is re­ally im­por­tant to me — get mar­ried and see it all the way through, the good and the bad. I don’t want to have to go through a di­vorce. I just want some­body that is go­ing to be my best friend for the rest of my life.

Love me or not, most peo­ple out there know that, with me, what you see is what you get. Be­fore I spent my few years in the Se­nate I strug­gled for a decade with pain and de­pres­sion caused by the ma­jor back in­jury I suf­fered in the army.

But af­ter in­vol­un­tar­ily step­ping down from the Se­nate (like so many other politi­cians now, I had prob­lems with my father’s na­tion­al­ity), it’s time to get se­ri­ous and look for love.

It’s 15 years since I’ve had a ro­man­tic re­la­tion­ship. I guess I’d been by my­self for so long I’d just switched off on that side of life.

In my book there’s a quote from the Ad­min­is­tra­tive Ap­peals Tri­bunal, when I was fight­ing with Veter­ans Af­fairs: “I don’t feel I have any­thing to of­fer in re­la­tion to main­tain­ing a re­la­tion­ship. Nor do I want to be in­volved in an­other re­la­tion­ship be­cause sex should be a part of it and I re- alise how much I can’t give or do be­cause of my back pain”.

Well, guys, that’s changed. Look out. Some­thing has hap­pened in the years since I joined the Se­nate. Af­ter strug­gling with the con­straints of be­ing in Clive Palmer’s po­lit­i­cal out­fit, I learned that I could be my own woman in pol­i­tics and sur­vive.

And I feel the same about love. This is me, like it or not. I’m in this for real. Plenty of

my friends, lovely women who are sin­gle in the mid­dle of life, have given up. I re­alised I’m not pre­pared to give up, at least not yet. There has to be an Aussie man out there that has what I’m look­ing for.

I’ve al­ways thought I’ll know it when the right man is stand­ing in front of me. But, of course, it’s not that sim­ple.

Sun­day Night got me look­ing and look­ing hard. I went to a speed-dat­ing night in a ho­tel in Launceston. I went to a bach­e­lor and spin­ster ball in Coota­mundra, NSW. I even went to a “mar­i­tal aids” night.

I’ve been try­ing bloody hard on the dat­ing apps eHar­mony, Bum­ble and even Tin­der. It’s not that easy.

Peo­ple ac­tu­ally don’t be­lieve it’s me on there. They all sort of stay en­gaged with me for prob­a­bly five or six com­ments and then when I ac­tu­ally tell them I’m on the dat­ing scene and ce­ment that in with them, they seem to be run­ning like water.

I just can’t win. I don’t know whether they think they’re be­ing dragged into some­thing or whether “Jac­qui Lam­bie” is scar­ing the hell out of them, but it’s ba­si­cally dis­be­lief.

I reckon there should be a Se­nate in­quiry into those apps — they’re just not all they’re cracked up to be. If you ask your mates, ev­ery­one has had a tough time meet­ing peo­ple on­line or via Bum­ble and the rest of them.

Sure there’ve been some suc­cesses, even mar­riages, but there’s a lot of pain and heartache along the way. I can tell you where you can go and stick your apps, be­cause they’re not work­ing for me. I am quickly los­ing my self-es­teem. They are about as much help as I am when it comes to the dat­ing game.

So far in my love jour­ney, the best thing I’ve done is en­list the help of a re­la­tion­ship con­sul­tant — Sa­man­tha Jayne from Blue La­bel Life. I was pretty scep­ti­cal but she is lovely and has care­fully helped me through what I’m re­ally look­ing for, how to present that to the world — even with hair and makeup.

Sud­denly, when I was all made up and ready, I had to face the re­al­ity. I’m ac­tu­ally go­ing to go and have a ro­man­tic din­ner with this bloke. Yikes! So, did it work? You’ll have to have a look tonight and judge for your­self.

This search has taken me across the coun­try. I know af­ter last week’s royal wed­ding ev­ery­one has an opin­ion. Well, I want to be mar­ried too. But I can do with­out the royal.

It’s time I get se­ri­ous and to do some­thing that is re­ally im­por­tant to me — get mar­ried and see it all the way through, the good and the bad. I’m not pre­pared to give up, at least not yet. There has to be an Aussie man out there that has what I’m look­ing for. I’ve been try­ing bloody hard on the dat­ing apps, eHar­mony, Bum­ble and even Tin­der. It’s not that easy. When it comes to love it’s all about open­ness and trust but you’ve got to trust your­self that you can find the right bloke. TRY­ING EV­ERY­THING: From dat­ing apps to speed dat­ing and a bach­e­lor and spin­ster ball, Jac­qui Lam­bie is try­ing ev­ery­thing. Pic­ture:s CHAN­NEL 7

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