Attached at the heart
To label oneself an “attachment parent” (“Breaking point”, June 21-22) indicates a misunderstanding of the concept of attachment and implies there are other methods of parenting in which attachment is not involved. What author Antonella Gambotto-Burke fails to appreciate is that every woman who gives birth to and raises a baby practises “attachment parenting” in one form or another. In most cases (whether mothers work or stay home, breast or bottle feed, co-sleep or have separate beds), the attachment is secure and makes for happy, confident children. In some cases the attachment is not secure and there may be emotional and behavioural consequences for the child. All of us, for better or for worse, are practising attachment parenting, Antonella. Perhaps you need a new name for your philosophy?
Cathy McBryde, Westlake Gambotto-Burke’s article makes me wonder how many mothers turn their backs on attachment parenting older children because they feel hopeless and “all kinds of guilty”, or that it means no limits. We need to know we can make a difference to our children/teenagers at any age. We began our attachment parenting journey when our kids were 15, 13 and 10. It’s true, the younger the better, but if I had my time again with what I know now, I’d dive in at any age! This is a relationship for life.
Robyn Robinson, Morayfield It’s true that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, but who is rocking the cradle today? Articles such as this give us hope that eventually, before society gets further off the track, our politicians will look for answers by studying how things worked when families accepted responsibility for their own children, and government policies made it possible for a husband to provide for his wife and children. Thank you for a terrific article.
Jackie Butler, Wynnum