As an adoptee, I have more per­spec­tive on the in­sti­tu­tion of moth­er­hood.

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Mother’s many faces

Re “Moth­ers know best” (May 9-10): As an adoptee, I have more per­spec­tive on the in­sti­tu­tion of moth­er­hood. I will never sit in judge­ment of my birth mother giv­ing me up for adop­tion as I know in my heart it was the only way she could give me the life I would not have had oth­er­wise. Con­versely, my adop­tive mother pro­vided a lov­ing, sta­ble en­vi­ron­ment, which is the rea­son I’m the per­son I’ve be­come. In her own mat­ter-of-fact way, she used to suc­cinctly say that although there are test tube ba­bies, that doesn’t make the test tube the mother. M.J. Wouters, Ma­roochy­dore

Post­hu­mous can­di­date

Thanks for shar­ing some sto­ries about English ec­centrics, Mike Colman (Post­card from Lon­don, Up­front, May 9-10). Not that I was all that sur­prised af­ter read­ing about the elec­tion re­sult for an ec­cen­tric can­di­date from the Of­fi­cial Mon­ster Rav­ing Loony Party. He re­ceived 113 votes de­spite hav­ing passed away be­fore the ac­tual elec­tion! Mar­garet Kloos­tra, Goodna

Your Shot a win­ner

I loved the win­ning pho­to­graph in to­day’s mag­a­zine (Your Shot, May 9-10). It’s ab­so­lutely gor­geous and adorable. Su­san [Ibbs] de­serves her prize; what a lucky shot to be in the right place at the right time. The photo is a keeper and has been framed – thank you. B.M. Hosk­ing, Petrie

Mir­ror has two faces

Mike O’Con­nor might not be a mod­ern-day Narcissus but it’s ob­vi­ous he spends a lot of time re­flect­ing in front of a mir­ror. How else does he dis­cover blem­ishes on his “rugged good looks” (Back­chat, May 9-10)? Ju­ve­nile acne is bad enough when thoughts of ro­man­tic liaisons are to the fore. How­ever, poor old Mike, hav­ing en­dured the odd fin­ger­nail attack on his blem­ishes by his well-mean­ing wife, thought his so­cial life had come to an end when he es­pied mid­dle-age acne. Talk about pu­berty blues re­vis­ited. Well, that mir­ror had lied to him as he soon found out. His wor­ry­ing mark­ings ac­tu­ally had their be­gin­nings many years ago dur­ing his care­free sun­bak­ing days. The sun-spot treat­ment might not sound too ex­cit­ing for Mike, but the thought of a tomato-faced hus­band was just too much for his ob­vi­ously long-suf­fer­ing wife. For Mike, though, it re­ally was no laugh­ing mat­ter. Ken John­ston, Rochedale South Mike, you are wel­come to use our home in Bar­al­aba, Cen­tral Queens­land, to re­cover from your af­flic­tion. It’s empty as we speak, so you won’t be dis­turbed. Robert & Pam King, Bar­al­aba

De­grees of dif­fer­ence

Your ar­ti­cle “Get real” (May 2-3) high­lights the sort of think­ing that be­gan in the Whit­lam era – that the rich could af­ford uni­ver­sity de­grees, and there­fore do well, and the poor couldn’t, so should be en­ti­tled to free ed­u­ca­tion and thus be­come rich and suc­cess­ful. Of course, that wouldn’t work, as not ev­ery­one can be­come a doc­tor or lawyer. Who would do their wash­ing or sweep their streets? I’ve al­ways tried to in­stil in my chil­dren that what­ever work you may do, do it to the best of your abil­ity, and be proud of that, but al­ways strive for more. Surely it’s bet­ter to be the world’s best store­man-packer than a dis­grun­tled screen­writer? Anne Sum­mers, Townsville

Pre­ven­tion vs cure

One sen­tence in your ar­ti­cle “A heavy bur­den” (May 2-3) stands out for me – “I tell him he shouldn’t eat cer­tain things … you can’t stop him hav­ing ev­ery­thing”. Therein lies the main is­sue of this de­bate, ie, dis­ci­pline ver­sus quick fix. Fast foods are here to stay. They are way too prof­itable for gov­ern­ments and big man­u­fac­tur­ers to ever dis­ap­pear off the shelves. If gas­tric surgery did not ex­ist, then a dis­ci­plined ap­proach would be the only al­ter­na­tive. Surely the fo­cus should be on help­ing peo­ple with dis­ci­plinary is­sues rather than surgery. One with­out the other will still re­sult in health is­sues which have a huge im­pact on our so­ci­ety. Lee Hether­ing­ton, Toowoomba I have had three dif­fer­ent types of bariatric surgery over the past 20 years. Two of my chil­dren have also been banded be­cause I thought mis­tak­enly that it could be the an­swer to our obe­sity prob­lems. I started th­ese pro­ce­dures at 40 when my weight was 99kg (I am 150cm). The ef­fects of my band were tem­po­rary and I was sick three or four times a day. My adult daugh­ter is back to her orig­i­nal weight. My teenage daugh­ter didn’t have an im­me­di­ate re­sult and would like to have hers re­moved. When I con­verted to a sleeve from a band, I didn’t have a favourable re­sult, weight- or health-wise, and I was in hos­pi­tal for two months. I was heav­ier than I was be­fore that pro­ce­dure and re­cently have started get­ting the weight off with a diet. I know sur­geons are do­ing their best to help pa­tients but there might be new ways to deal with this prob­lem in fu­ture. I be­lieve the jury is still out on whether to op­er­ate on a ten-year-old. When he is 15 or older, there may be new dis­cov­er­ies. If this child can learn to live with a band, then he can learn to eat the food that will nour­ish him and keep him healthy. Leonie Kee­lan, Run­away Bay

Endo jus­ti­fies means

Dear Mike, re your col­umn (Back­chat, May 2-3) I think I know where you went wrong. An or­tho­don­tist straight­ens teeth. If in fact you were see­ing an or­tho­don­tist for root canal ther­apy no won­der it did not end well. An en­dodon­tist is the per­son you needed. I pre­sume that is where you were sent even­tu­ally and yes, they do know how to charge. It is such fid­dly work (I was a den­tal nurse many years ago) that I think most en­dodon­tists go cross-eyed even­tu­ally. Only jok­ing ! Hav­ing said that, I must say how much I en­joy your col­umn. Rhonda Smith, Cur­rimundi

Any­thing you can do …

I was in­trigued by the story about Catherine McCul­lough (Or­di­nary Peo­ple, May 2-3), who drives road trains and has a keen in­ter­est in drag rac­ing. It re­minded me of a com­ment made by an ob­ste­tri­cian some years ago: “Re­mem­ber that women can do any­thing that men can do – they just do it bet­ter.” ( Ob­vi­ously a state­ment made by a woman.) I won­der if maybe Catherine fits that bill? Pam McGa­hey, Mt Samson

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