I catch all the important moments
Mark Nichols, 44, of Freshwater, has been the primary carer for his seven-year-old son Hudson almost since birth. The actor, writer and sometime Uber driver switched traditional roles with wife Kate who works as a television food producer, a role that sees her travel often. He says: “Kate went back to work when Hudson was about three or four months. As her job was always more consistent than mine as a writer and actor, it was a no-brainer that she would go to work and I would stay home with Hudson. Kate had worked on the first season of MasterChef at that stage and she was in demand, it just made sense for our family.
I went along to our local mother’s group from fairly early on. I was a little hesitant at first, but once I met all the mums and we got on so well, it was great. Most of us were new parents and I got the same out of it as the new mothers did. Of course, there was some girl talk, but it didn’t worry me and it didn’t seem to worry them either. They’d joke I was the honorary sister of the group.
I can’t remember ever meeting another man doing what I did, so I guess that meant it was pretty rare.
There was one incident that stuck in my mind, where there was an issue among some kids at the park, and a mother just charged through to take control, even though I was there, like I couldn’t be trusted to handle it. But I guess she also wasn’t used to seeing a full-time dad at the park.
Other than that I have never really had to defend my position.
These days, with Hudson at school, I drop him off and drive for Uber during the day until I have to pick him up. And I spend Thursday and Friday on my writing or going to auditions.
I take Hudson to his swimming lessons, or we go surfing. He has also taken an interest in making short movies, which we do together.
It’s a cliche to say they grow up so fast, but it’s true and I’m glad I’m in a situation where I can catch all those important moments.”