I’m doing what is best for our family
Craig Balfour, 44, went from working 16-hour days seven days a week to being a full-time stay-at-home dad. He and his wife Jenny, a nurse, live in Nowra with their two sons, Ryan, 10, and Lachlan, 7. He says: “We owned a takeaway shop when the boys were born, which kept me away from home most of the time. When our eldest Ryan was around four, we sold it and Jenny and I decided I’d stay home with the boys and she’d keep her roster as a nurse. I didn’t see it as an issue. We were a team.
So our days follow somewhat of a routine: I wake up, get the boys ready for school and drop them off. Then I come home, make the beds, put a load of washing on if it’s needed, vacuum and go out to do the shopping — essentially everything a stay-at-home mum would do. In the afternoons the boys have swimming or tennis every day, which I take them to.
It was a little challenging at first especially seeing as I was away from the home so much before. It was a big change for all of us. I’d also get the odd comment insinuating I’m home because I’m lazy or can’t find a good job, but it doesn’t bother me because I know I’m doing what is best for our family.
I love that I get to spend so much time with the boys. It’s a wonderful opportunity for them to have a constant male role model around. Growing up, I had the traditional dad who went to work and I didn’t see much of him. What I love most about our situation is that our boys are learning that there are no set roles for mums or dads.” Craig Balfour at home with his sons Lachlan, 7, and Ryan, 10.