He felt like a failure and thought school didn’t fit him
Kathryn Lowe says her son has thrived with homeschooling after his needs weren’t addressed at school. “We went through day care, preschool and did two years of primary school. Corey has ADHD and ODD, a severe anxiety disorder, and was recently diagnosed as being on the spectrum.
It was probably when he was around three that his teachers at preschool said he was very clever, but wouldn’t sit down in story time and refused to play with the other kids and had started to be aggressive.
I had never heard or considered homeschooling, I thought it was just something for hippies and religious nuts.
I’m not blaming the school system necessarily, they don’t have the time and didn’t have the training.
But I had a child who was so skinny, he never ate, and I rang my husband one day and said I’m going to homeschool, I’m not taking him back tomorrow.
I started out with a system of school at home and set up a little classroom with books that matched the curriculum.
It didn’t work every week, he’s just the kid who doesn’t fit the system. He doesn’t learn by sitting down and learning from books.
Gradually, through being part of Facebook communities for homeschooling and meeting and talking with other mums, I learned different ways to teach that didn’t involve him sitting down.
He’s now a completely different child. Within a year he stopped the violent behaviour. He stopped thinking about himself as the naughty kid and is so much more co-operative. He always felt like a failure and thought school didn’t fit him.
We’re planning to also homeschool Ashton (our younger son). You do what is right for each child. If he ever asks to go to school, we will certainly enrol him.
Kathryn Lowe with her sons Corey, 11, and Ashton, 20 months.