Dates seem like job in­ter­views

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Ri­ley Spratt, 24, a mar­ket­ing as­sis­tant, has been sin­gle for a year and has been on about 25 dates dur­ing that time. She says: “IT can get a lit­tle ex­haust­ing. I go through peaks and troughs with dat­ing; I’ll go through a phase where I’ll go on a date about once a week, then I’ll get over it and delete all the apps off my phone and give it all up. But a month or two later, I’m back to it.

Dat­ing has be­come so com­pet­i­tive now, it’s all about what your pro­file looks like and the dates seem al­most like job in­ter­views, it can get pretty in­tense. When you go on a date with some­one you’ve met through an apps you have to go on blind faith that they’re not a psy­cho and that you will have some lit­tle thing in com­mon. It’s a lit­tle over­whelm­ing some­times, it’s like there are too many op­tions and ev­ery­one’s so dis­pos­able. For that rea­son I try to keep costs down be­cause you don’t want the added pres­sure of spend­ing too much if the date doesn’t go well.

You have to as­sume the pho­tos peo­ple put on their pro­file are about 20 per cent bet­ter than they are in real life. I’ve been on a few dates where the per­son looked noth­ing like their pro­file at all. One guy even thanked me for stay­ing and said his last two dates had shot through after meet­ing him. I’ll al­ways stay and have a chat.

Meet­ing peo­ple is so dif­fer­ent to my par­ent’s gen­er­a­tion, it seemed like a much sim­pler process then. Back then, you’d go on a date and if you got along, then that seemed to be enough to keep dat­ing. Even in a bar th­ese days you’ll see so many peo­ple with their eyes on their screens look­ing for dates on an app or on­line rather than hav­ing a face-to-face ex­pe­ri­ence. I find guys are scared to ask you out in real life, it’s eas­ier if they can hide be­hind a screen so the re­jec­tion is not so bit­ter.”

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