The faceto-face approach has been lost
Joanna Lim, 23, has been single for two years and dates every three to four months. The fashion brand manager uses the app Bumble to find dates. She says:
“I DO tend to shy away from dates and at first, when I was newly single, I would mostly date people I met through mutual friends or people I knew. But I started using online services because it was about getting myself out there. I think dating is more accessible these days but so time consuming. Last year I was balancing work, full time uni and interning, so there was little time left for dating.
I recently started using Bumble (an app that allows women to make the first move) and I quite like it because it puts the power in the hands of the girl. Basically you swipe right if you like someone or you can skip. If they swipe right also and you have a match you can start a conversation, but it relies on the girl having the chance to speak first. They have 24 hours to start a conversation, otherwise the connection is lost. It’s still generally expected for the guys to approach the girls first when setting up a date, so I like that Bumble has turned that all around.
The initial challenge with this app was ‘what will I say?’ because I was so used to guys taking the lead. But I also like that the guys who sign up are OK with handing the power over, it’s a great confidence booster. But the nice thing about having technology logy to date is that you can just have nice e conversations with people eople too, you’re not necessarily y obliged to even meet each other. her.
I’m at the stage now ow where if it happens, itt happens, dating is not ot my pure focus. But dating apps definitelyy help people to connect. When I’m out now I feel that the whole face-toface approach doesn’t ’t happen any more, it’s s been lost. It’s like everyone is happy to leave it to the apps andnd internet.”
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