The faceto-face ap­proach has been lost

The Daily Telegraph (Sydney) - Best Weekend - - NEWS -

Joanna Lim, 23, has been sin­gle for two years and dates ev­ery three to four months. The fash­ion brand man­ager uses the app Bum­ble to find dates. She says:

“I DO tend to shy away from dates and at first, when I was newly sin­gle, I would mostly date peo­ple I met through mu­tual friends or peo­ple I knew. But I started us­ing on­line ser­vices be­cause it was about get­ting my­self out there. I think dat­ing is more ac­ces­si­ble th­ese days but so time con­sum­ing. Last year I was balanc­ing work, full time uni and in­tern­ing, so there was lit­tle time left for dat­ing.

I re­cently started us­ing Bum­ble (an app that al­lows women to make the first move) and I quite like it be­cause it puts the power in the hands of the girl. Ba­si­cally you swipe right if you like some­one or you can skip. If they swipe right also and you have a match you can start a con­ver­sa­tion, but it re­lies on the girl hav­ing the chance to speak first. They have 24 hours to start a con­ver­sa­tion, oth­er­wise the con­nec­tion is lost. It’s still gen­er­ally ex­pected for the guys to ap­proach the girls first when set­ting up a date, so I like that Bum­ble has turned that all around.

The ini­tial chal­lenge with this app was ‘what will I say?’ be­cause I was so used to guys tak­ing the lead. But I also like that the guys who sign up are OK with hand­ing the power over, it’s a great con­fi­dence booster. But the nice thing about hav­ing tech­nol­ogy logy to date is that you can just have nice e con­ver­sa­tions with peo­ple eo­ple too, you’re not nec­es­sar­ily y obliged to even meet each other. her.

I’m at the stage now ow where if it hap­pens, itt hap­pens, dat­ing is not ot my pure fo­cus. But dat­ing apps def­i­nite­lyy help peo­ple to con­nect. When I’m out now I feel that the whole face-to­face ap­proach doesn’t ’t hap­pen any more, it’s s been lost. It’s like ev­ery­one is happy to leave it to the apps andnd in­ter­net.”

Photo: Toby Zerna

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