I’m not go­ing to ruin that trust my par­ents have

The Daily Telegraph (Sydney) - Best Weekend - - FRONT PAGE -

LILY Heath, Gaby Cald­well and Ebony Car­rero are your typ­i­cal teenagers. But un­like the stereo­type, they are not look­ing for op­por­tu­ni­ties to mis­be­have.

The Port Mac­quarie girls say teens of­ten get a bad rap. But it’s the bad few who give the rest of them a bad name. While the girls say they have seen teens act­ing out, par­tic­u­larly when it comes to al­co­hol and par­ty­ing, they know bet­ter than to risk their par­ents’ wrath by do­ing the wrong thing.

“I went through a stage where I wanted to go to par­ties and things like that and I talked to my par­ents and they set some ground rules,” Heath, 15, says. “It was things like agree­ing I wouldn’t drink al­co­hol even if it was around, that I wouldn’t get in a car with a P-plate driver, that I wouldn’t go off alone and that they would drop me off and pick me up.

“It’s all about trust, at first they had to learn to trust that me and my friends would do the right thing and fol­low their rules, and then I earned their trust.”

Heath says by show­ing her par­ents she is ca­pa­ble of do­ing the right thing, she was able to gain added flex­i­bil­ity and greater free­dom.

“I’m not go­ing to ruin that trust my par­ents have in me be­cause then it makes things hard for me,” she says.

Cald­well, also 15, says she un­der­stands her par­ents will some­times stop her go­ing to a party be­cause they want her to be safe. But she ad­mits it can be frus­trat­ing.

“I know the thing my par­ents worry about the most is that I’ll fall in with the wrong crowd,” she says, “but they know my friends and they like them.

“It can be frus­trat­ing that they some­times still treat me like a lit­tle kid even though I don’t feel like a lit­tle kid any more. But then at school the teach­ers ex­pect us to ac­cept more re­spon­si­bil­ity.”

Cald­well says hav­ing an older sis­ter she can go to when she needs ad­vice on any is­sue has been in­valu­able. “My older sis­ter helps me out a lot and gives me ad­vice on what to do in cer­tain sit­u­a­tions,” she says. “It’s much eas­ier go­ing to her some­times than my par­ents, so I feel I’m lucky I have her.”

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