Tech­nol­ogy makes it eas­ier to con­nect

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Shaw adds there is a great ben­e­fit for older peo­ple em­brac­ing tech­nol­ogy for dat­ing, es­pe­cially sole par­ents who may not have the time or money to con­duct a re­la­tion­ship in the old-fash­ioned way, when win­ing and din­ing was the ac­cept­able for­mat.

Man­ning says changes in at­ti­tudes be­tween men and women have made it dif­fi­cult for men to know what role they should play in a re­la­tion­ship. “It’s not al­ways clear what women want when it comes to ro­man­tic ges­tures these days,” Man­ning says. “Rules like ‘ladies first’ were com­mon in the 1950s but the lines are blurred now and some women don’t ap­pre­ci­ate what they may con­sider to be out­dated ges­tures. In the past there was more struc­ture to dat­ing, but now a lot of that has been chucked out. What is im­por­tant, then, is to es­tab­lish the things that are im­por­tant to your part­ner; they may care less about hav­ing the door opened for them but re­ally ap­pre­ci­ate hav­ing text mes­sages ac­knowl­edged.” e . IT was the sim­ple but very telling move to un­fol­low Marko Zitko on so­cial me­dia that ul­ti­mately brought him and Vishaya Pracy to­gether. Like true Mil­len­ni­als, the pair, who met when they worked to­gether at a pizza shop, con­ducted most of their con­ver­sa­tions, and a lit­tle flirt­ing, through so­cial me­dia for two years be­fore dat­ing. “Af­ter I left the pizza shop I no­ticed she un­fol­lowed me on Snapchat, In­sta­gram and Face­book,” 21-year-old Zitko, a PR ac­count co­or­di­na­tor says. “I found out she took some­thing I said out of con­text, so I texted her to ask why she un­fol­lowed me and it sparked from there. “That move def­i­nitely caught my at­ten­tion, if it didn’t hap­pen I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t have got to­gether.” Zitko says com­mu­ni­cat­ing via tech­nol­ogy has helped his re­la­tion­ship with the 19-year-old uni­ver­sity stu­dent blos­som, par­tic­u­larly when busy sched­ules keep them apart. “Our lifestyles are pretty dif­fer­ent, I work full-time and she’s at uni, so be­ing able to use tech­nol­ogy to chat when we can has re­ally helped our re­la­tion­ship,” he says. “Tex­ting can also give you the plat­form to say the right thing and re­ally think about what mes­sage you want to get across. “It def­i­nitely makes it eas­ier to con­nect, sched­ule places to meet and keep in touch when you’re busy.” How­ever, Zitk Zitko says he draws the line at us­ing tech­nolo tech­nol­ogy to share ten­der mo­ments to­gether. “Say “Say­ing ‘I love you,’ es­pe­cially for the fi first time, and break­ing up sho should be tra­di­tional and done fa face-to-face,” he says. “These are two ten­der m mo­ments in a re­la­tion­ship and should be ex­pressed only when you’re to­gether. “Also, I do of­fer her my jacket if it’s cold, hold the door open for her, pick her up, drop h her off and wait to see she got in the door. But I see these thin things as a courtesy, not a roma ro­man­tic ges­ture.”

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