Be­lief in the fairy­tale is a time­less trait

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of­fi­cial the sep­a­ra­tion of the Prince and Princess of Wales in 1995, af­ter 14 years of mar­riage. The world may have seen it com­ing but it was still a shock­ing end to what we wanted to be­lieve was a happy ever af­ter.

“Peo­ple be­come in­vested be­cause they see these cou­ples as rep­re­sent­ing the ideal we are trained from child­hood to be­lieve in — the fairy­tale and find­ing the one,” says Elis­a­beth Shaw, Re­la­tion­ships Aus­tralia chief and clin­i­cal psy­chol­o­gist. “We need to find some­one to at­tach that ideal to and say, ‘See it does hap­pen,’ and if you can prove it to be true, then you can hold out hope for your­self.”

Shaw says this is why we hold up ex­am­ples of en­dur­ing cou­ples with such pride — cou­ples like Chris Hemsworth and Elsa Pataky; Ryan Gosling and Eva Men­des; Matthew Brod­er­ick rod­er­ick and Sarah Jes­sica Parker and Will Smith mith and Jada Pin­kett Smith. Even Diana’s own wn sons, Princes Wil­liam and Harry, ap­pear to have bro­ken the tragic spell of their par­ents’ nts’ doomed re­la­tion­ship find­ing au­then­tic love matches.

Will Smith re­cently ex­plained he’s e’s been mar­ried to Jada for so long, more than 20 years, he no longer con­sid­ers him­self mar­ried. ar­ried. “We re­fer to our­selves as life part­ners,” ” he says, “where you get into that space where here you re­alise you are lit­er­ally with some­body for the rest of your life.” e.”

Even Chris Hemsworth was can­did about the hard work ev­ery mar­riage re­quires.

“My wife and I fell in love, had kids, didn’t re­ally see each other for a few years, then fell back in love,” he told GQ Aus­tralia last year. “Once you have chil­dren, ev­ery in­stinct and ev­ery mo­ment of your time is con­sumed by that. So make sure you have date ate night even if it’s once in a blue moon, be­cause most of the time e you’re just too tired and you’d ac­tu­ally pre­fer to sleep.”

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