There is much to learn about relationships as the second season of Nine’s reality dating show Married At First Sight hits its stride
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Married At First
Sight is more than just mental junk food, it can teach singles a raft of relationship skills, like negotiating for sex, says one of the show’s experts.
Relationship psychologist John Aiken says there’s plenty to be gained from watching the reality TV series, which returned to the Nine Network on Monday night.
Aiken, psychologist and dating expert Mel Schilling and neuropsychotherapist Trisha Stratford are responsible for pairing the four couples who appear on the second season.
They interviewed dozens of candidates and used several testing techniques before deciding who is best suited to meet for the first time at the altar, in a commitment ceremony disguised as a wedding. Aiken concedes the scenario of people meeting for the first time at the altar is surreal but there’s a lot more to the show than meets the eye for those still chasing their perfect match.
“It can teach them (singles) a number of things, firstly … the expectations you have may not be that realistic,” he says. “It teaches you to reevaluate your expectations, it also teaches you to negotiate sex. When to have that in a relationship and how to talk about it.
“How to bring up arguments or issues. All those things go on in the four weeks.”
Sifting through the desperate and dateless the second time around was tougher, says Aiken, because of the Big Brother syndrome.
“We are now having people apply that want notoriety, so we have to be as selective as possible to keep the Big Brother aspect out of it,” he said.
“Ultimately, you want someone who is totally committed to being in a longterm relationship.”
Clare Verrall prepares for her big day on Married At First Sight.