THE ODDS ARE ON MATTY J’S SIDE WHEN HE GIVES LOVE ANOTHER SHOT AS THE BACHELOR
Anation’s heart broke when Bachelorette Georgia Love told a smitten Matty J that her heart didn’t belong with him, but now we’re all the more ready to watch him fall in love all over again. This time, he says there’s a happy ending.
So there are a couple of Gold Coast girls in this series, which one did you end up with?
I think you know I can’t say anything about that ... but what I will say is I grew up in Brisbane and I know a lot of Gold Coast girls. I think they’re very down to earth, easy going and love the outdoors.
So what’s your biggest turn off in a girl?
My biggest turn off is somebody who’s rude or arrogant, that by far – initially when you have a conversation – that’s one of the things that deters me. One big thing for me is if we go to a bar or restaurant if they’re rude to the waiter, especially because I worked in hospitality when I was younger. I like someone who has a sense of humour and is confident, but not arrogant.
What’s the difference between confidence and arrogance, in your opinion?
I think the difference is arrogant people who think very highly of themselves, won’t ask questions about you and they only talk about themselves. Confidence is just something you can sense in someone, it emanates from them.
Where do you stand on the concept of making women compete for your love?
The Bachelor is interesting in the sense that it is a competition where every week someone gets evicted, but I also believe that they’re not really competing against each other. There’s nothing you can do to win other than being yourself. I don’t view it as a comp, when I was one of the guys we didn’t feel like we were being pitted against each other, Georgia would pick who she liked the most.
Apart from the things like wrestling or cliff diving where you’re literally pitted against each other ...
I mean, there are games; those rare occasions are in fun and in jest.
It must be hard though, because you want the girls to show they care but also not be too competitive. If they’re not competitive they might not get noticed. How do they do both?
It’s a bit of a balance. You want people to care and try, but you don’t want them to become over-competitive or nasty. It’s about being invested but being respectful to others. And again I think that’s just a natural thing, just be yourself and whatever’s meant to happen will happen.
Being a former contestant, you know how it all works. Was that any help to you being on the other side?
I think it was definitely helpful for myself knowing how the show works, the milestones and things, but it was also a negative for me going into rose ceremonies and knowing how hard it is to stand there. But I would like to think through the entire process I was considerate and caring.
On the show, do you prefer group dates or one-onone dates?
Obviously I love the one-onone dates, but group dates can be more revealing in a way than one-on-ones. You sometimes learn more about a girl by just observing. It’s interesting to see how people are one-on-one compared to group dates. That’s why I was looking forward to group dates to see how each girl acts among other girls, if their demeanour changes, how they’d be polite to me but rude to others. Group dates are an opportunity to see true personalities. I went in with a mindset of not trying to catch people out or see if people are there for the wrong reasons, but I am intuitive to who people are.
Over this whole experience, what have you learned about yourself?
I think the biggest thing about myself is having more confidence in who I am as a person. Initially I thought “How can I maintain the personality of the perfect man: The Bachelor,” and I realised all I had to do was be myself and that was the main thing. I knew there was no guarantee anyone would fall in love with me. I just hoped I lived up to expectation. And I did for one person, which I’m very happy about.
Was it Osher?
It wasn’t Osher.
The Bachelor premieres on Sunday 7.30pm on Channel 10
IT’S A BIT OF A BALANCE. YOU WANT PEOPLE TO CARE AND TRY, BUT YOU DON’T WANT THEM TO BECOME OVERCOMPETITIVE OR NASTY
Despite having his heart broken on The Bachelorette, Matty J signed up to tackle the reality TV dating concept from a different angle, this time as the one in control on The Bachelor.