WHY BACHELORETTE ALI OETJEN JUST MIGHT RESTORE OUR FAITH IN LOVE
Ali Oetjen’s road to love has been rocky at best, but Channel 10’s newest Bachelorette hopes her journey to finding Mr Right will inspire other women to not give up on finding the one.
“I’ve learnt from my hurt and my pain that I always get over it,” Ali says.
“And that I don’t just get over it, I become a stronger person.
“Although it’s hard at the time, and it feels horrible when you have heartbreak, you’re always going to come out on the other side.”
Premiering on Channel 10 last night, The Bachelorette will hopefully be third time lucky for Ali’s quest to find love on television.
Ali was one of the favourites to win the first season of The Bachelor Australia in 2013 when a shock elimination saw her booted out in third place.
She then went on to appear on this year’s Bachelor in Paradise where she hooked up with American contestant Grant Kemp, who later accused her of cheating on him.
Now, she’s ready to find happiness with a partner again, but says her past has left her wary of falling too fast.
“I was always being observant and analysing every situation (on The Bachelorette),” Ali says.
“Trying to tap into my intuition all the time … but also thinking with my head, like, ‘Ali, that’s a massive red flag, even though you may like him, don’t go for him, you have lots of other men’.
“I was really looking for actions over words more than anything. To just not get lost in a feeling.”
Ali says her family had reservations about her becoming the Bachelorette, trying to convince her it was a bad idea after all she’d been through.
“My parents didn’t want me to do it, they’re like, ‘Ali, you can’t be broken again, we don’t want to see you like that’.
“If I want something this bad, I have to do whatever it takes.”
To keep her focus, Ali says she went into The Bachelorette with a clear vision of what she wanted in a man.
“I definitely manifested a lot in what I wanted and I wasn’t going to settle for anything less,” she says.
“That’s probably what’s different. I didn’t have a criteria, values and morals and what I wanted clear envisioned (before), so this way was going to be successful for me.”
High up on Ali’s list is a sense of humour and a love for the great outdoors.
“I got to pick the dates, which was really cool. So it was getting to do what I’d always wanted to do – really outdoorsy, outgoing activities,” Ali says.
“It was lots of fun. I was really looking for a sense of fun in everything we were doing because I want to laugh every day with my partner until we grow old.
“All the guys are beautiful, good people, and I’m so lucky to be able to get to know them and be able to pick from such a lovely bunch of guys.”
Perhaps Fairground Attraction’s Perfect would have been a better suited promo song for Ali to sing, rather than You Can’t Hurry Love.
“When they (producers) said ‘do you want to sing?’ I was like ‘OK’,” Ali laughs.
“It’s theatrical, funny, I thought it would be really fun. It was scary though because I’m very shy when it comes to singing. I wouldn’t call myself a singer.”
The Bachelorette airs again tonight, and continues Wednesday and Thursday nights at 7.30pm on Channel 10
IT WAS LOTS OF FUN. I WAS REALLY LOOKING FOR A SENSE OF FUN IN EVERYTHING WE WERE DOING
The Bachelorette host Osher Gunsberg with Bachelorette Ali Oetjen, who is back on TV looking for love again.