REAL RO­MANCE

WHY BACH­E­LORETTE ALI OET­JEN JUST MIGHT RE­STORE OUR FAITH IN LOVE

The Gold Coast Bulletin - Play Magazine - - FRONT PAGE - AM­BER MACPHER­SON

Ali Oet­jen’s road to love has been rocky at best, but Chan­nel 10’s new­est Bach­e­lorette hopes her jour­ney to find­ing Mr Right will in­spire other women to not give up on find­ing the one.

“I’ve learnt from my hurt and my pain that I al­ways get over it,” Ali says.

“And that I don’t just get over it, I be­come a stronger per­son.

“Although it’s hard at the time, and it feels hor­ri­ble when you have heart­break, you’re al­ways go­ing to come out on the other side.”

Premier­ing on Chan­nel 10 last night, The Bach­e­lorette will hope­fully be third time lucky for Ali’s quest to find love on tele­vi­sion.

Ali was one of the favourites to win the first sea­son of The Bach­e­lor Aus­tralia in 2013 when a shock elim­i­na­tion saw her booted out in third place.

She then went on to ap­pear on this year’s Bach­e­lor in Par­adise where she hooked up with Amer­i­can con­tes­tant Grant Kemp, who later ac­cused her of cheat­ing on him.

Now, she’s ready to find hap­pi­ness with a part­ner again, but says her past has left her wary of fall­ing too fast.

“I was al­ways be­ing ob­ser­vant and analysing ev­ery sit­u­a­tion (on The Bach­e­lorette),” Ali says.

“Try­ing to tap into my in­tu­ition all the time … but also think­ing with my head, like, ‘Ali, that’s a mas­sive red flag, even though you may like him, don’t go for him, you have lots of other men’.

“I was re­ally look­ing for ac­tions over words more than any­thing. To just not get lost in a feel­ing.”

Ali says her fam­ily had reser­va­tions about her be­com­ing the Bach­e­lorette, try­ing to con­vince her it was a bad idea af­ter all she’d been through.

“My par­ents didn’t want me to do it, they’re like, ‘Ali, you can’t be bro­ken again, we don’t want to see you like that’.

“If I want some­thing this bad, I have to do what­ever it takes.”

To keep her fo­cus, Ali says she went into The Bach­e­lorette with a clear vi­sion of what she wanted in a man.

“I def­i­nitely man­i­fested a lot in what I wanted and I wasn’t go­ing to set­tle for any­thing less,” she says.

“That’s prob­a­bly what’s dif­fer­ent. I didn’t have a cri­te­ria, val­ues and morals and what I wanted clear en­vi­sioned (be­fore), so this way was go­ing to be suc­cess­ful for me.”

High up on Ali’s list is a sense of hu­mour and a love for the great out­doors.

“I got to pick the dates, which was re­ally cool. So it was get­ting to do what I’d al­ways wanted to do – re­ally out­doorsy, out­go­ing ac­tiv­i­ties,” Ali says.

“It was lots of fun. I was re­ally look­ing for a sense of fun in ev­ery­thing we were do­ing be­cause I want to laugh ev­ery day with my part­ner un­til we grow old.

“All the guys are beau­ti­ful, good peo­ple, and I’m so lucky to be able to get to know them and be able to pick from such a lovely bunch of guys.”

Per­haps Fair­ground At­trac­tion’s Per­fect would have been a bet­ter suited promo song for Ali to sing, rather than You Can’t Hurry Love.

“When they (pro­duc­ers) said ‘do you want to sing?’ I was like ‘OK’,” Ali laughs.

“It’s the­atri­cal, funny, I thought it would be re­ally fun. It was scary though be­cause I’m very shy when it comes to singing. I wouldn’t call my­self a singer.”

The Bach­e­lorette airs again tonight, and con­tin­ues Wed­nes­day and Thurs­day nights at 7.30pm on Chan­nel 10

IT WAS LOTS OF FUN. I WAS RE­ALLY LOOK­ING FOR A SENSE OF FUN IN EV­ERY­THING WE WERE DO­ING

The Bach­e­lorette host Osher Guns­berg with Bach­e­lorette Ali Oet­jen, who is back on TV look­ing for love again.

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