Los­ing a pet is like los­ing a fam­ily mem­ber

The Observer - - NEWS | OPINION - JORDIE LYNCH

No one can tell us how to grieve or when the right time is to stop cry­ing.

GRIEF can be in­cred­i­bly cruel and greedy. It can break ev­ery lit­tle bit of us apart, it can over­whelm us to a point where it dra­mat­i­cally dark­ens our view of the world, it can paral­yse us and of­ten leave us with more ques­tions than an­swers.

My fam­ily and I re­cently lost our beloved cock­a­too, Sun­shine, who was 33 years of age and the ab­so­lute light of our lives.

Los­ing a fam­ily mem­ber, pet or per­son, can make us feel like our world has come to a screech­ing halt and the harsh­ness of the re­al­ity can hit ex­tremely hard. One thing to seek so­lace in is know­ing they have stepped away from the cruel clutches of pain, fear and suf­fer­ing and found their peace.

In the midst of all the mor­bid­ity, mem­o­ries are the great­est of gifts. When the dark clouds roll into our minds and threaten to rain down and wash away ev­ery ounce of hap­pi­ness and in­ner har­mony we’ve ever felt in just one mo­ment, fam­ily and friends are there to catch the tears.

No one can tell us how to grieve or when the right time is to stop cry­ing. We all main­tain dif­fer­ent re­la­tion­ships of vary­ing depths and no one else gets a say in how we say good­bye. Pets are part of the fam­ily too, the bonds we share with them are equally as pow­er­ful as the ones we share with peo­ple.

Time is a cru­cial bandaid when it comes to deal­ing with the loss of a loved one.

As time passes by, the mem­o­ries re­main vividly, and pro­vide so much com­fort. It’s like when a storm strikes, the sky may be ex­tremely dark but hid­den be­hind the clouds and the chaos is the sun.

It never goes away. It’s al­ways there no mat­ter how dark and mor­bid ev­ery­thing gets, the sun is al­ways there to make the world glow once again in all of its glory.

Sadly we don’t get the plea­sure of liv­ing for­ever or be­ing in­vin­ci­ble but we do get to live ev­ery day to its ab­so­lute fullest and make mem­o­ries that live on.

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