>> you’re basically sneaking around behind your girlfriend’s back <<
the cake does not include getting to shag your ex. If you feel guilty about something or you feel the need to hide it, then it’s cheating. Activities with a female friend You regularly go biking with your female work colleague because you both share a love of the outdoors. You and your best female friend sometimes go to dance class together. Your respective partners do not join you on your excursions. Are you cheating? No. Friendships are an important part of life and you can share different kinds of closeness with friends than you do with your partner. Who says your partner has to tag along with you every time you’re spending time with another woman? That’s a dark ages mentality. Feeling attracted to someone else Although you’re happily attached, you can’t help but feel attracted to your colleague or friend. Maybe you ogle her every now and then when she wears that tight dress. Are you cheating? No. Just because you’ve admired another woman’s looks or felt a bit of sexual attraction to her, you’re not a cheat for the simple fact that you haven’t done anything more than have a look.
Are you cheating? ask your conscience.
Naturally, everyone has differing definitions for cheating. Your chick might have her own ideas about what is and isn’t cheating, so it’s no wonder the issue can lead to some heated, awkward moments.
A good guide is to gauge your own feelings: If you feel guilty about an activity you partook in or feel the urge to cover your tracks, then you’re heading into cheating territory.