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irl’s name until a day before our hird child, Willem, was born.
We finally decided our third hild, if a girl, would be named Grace. We had always agreed to call son of ours Willem, after my Dutch- born uncle and greatrandfather, so Willem he is.
And it appears naming a child fter a relative or choosing a ame that is not fad- driven is on rend for 2015.
Following the Baby Names Australia 2014 Report, put out by McCrindle Research earlier this
ear, social researcher and demographer Mark McCrindle ays 2015 will see new parents move away from creative names owards more traditional and istorical names.
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Townsville Families has two Jumping Jack prizes to give away to two readers.
Text your best parenting tip to 0416 905 534 by 9am Thursday. The winners will be notified on Friday and their names printed in Tuesday’s Townsville Families liftout. WHEN a marriage breaks down there is a lot of dividing up. Assets, furniture, money but I encourage you to be careful to not confuse the dividing of objects with dividing up people.
All too often I hear parents and lawyers talk of dividing time spent with children.
Sadly, many standard custody arrangements treat children as objects.
Often lawyers can be encouraging fathers to go for overnight visits or long days for young children. that Australians have drawn back from fad- driven naming, such as creative spelling or borrowing names from popular movies and TV series.
Instead, parents are starting to look back into the past to choose names that have substance so they’re not just in for today but will last for a lifetime.
I also love the advice from baby naming expert Suelain Moy, author of Names to Grow On.
She encourages parents- to- be to throw the checklist of what makes a name “perfect” out the window, and instead look deep inside.
She suggests mums and dadsto- be close your eyes and think about which name they really, really love. And I couldn’t agree more. If a name makes you smile every time you say it, the search for your precious baby’s name is over as it was for my family when the names Gemma, Sophia and Willem were discussed.
What they don’t understand is how important attachment and emotional development is for their child.
As hard as it may be to hear, unless parents shared or reversed roles early in a child’s life then the mother is the primary parent and this can be hard for a father to understand at this emotional time.
Often what is best for children is not in the best interests of parents.
Lots of parents guided by courts go with the week on and week off arrangement. This doesn’t suit most children. The needs of your children must be put first and parenting should become ‘ mutual’.
Often I advise separating parents that they need to think of their future relationship is one of ‘ business partners’, they are in the business of raising children.
You need to put aside anger and focus on your children.
Penelope Leach puts it well when she says “As people- whoare- parents, you may divorce or leave each other, but you cannot divorce and you should never leave your children”.
I often hear parents making statements such a ‘ they will be okay, kids are resilient’ in fact the vast majority of kids are not okay, they will suffer and be hurt, what we do know is that we as parents, can make it better and help children to cope
When deciding care and where ‘ home’ is for a child think about what they currently consider home to look like.
This should guide you as to where and with whom their main home should be. Email questions to aboutababy@ townsvillebulletin. com. au. Nicole Pierotti is a child psychologist who is an expert in helping solve sleep problems. Call 4724 2600 or go to babysmiles. com. au
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