Increasing your libido
THERE can be a list of things that can contribute to low libido: physical pain (dryness of the vagina, menopause, period pain, joint pain), low energy, insomnia (small children, stress/anxiety), resentment in the relationship, emotional wounds from previous relationships (cheating, sexual abuse) and as naturopaths we often discuss and treat the above during consultations.
However the biggest mood killer (besides young children) is the stress response.
Historically, we had intercourse for reproduction and when the tribal woman were under stress (famine, drought) then reproduction was put on the back burner.
Things really haven’t changed for us physiologically, but what has changed is our constant state of stress.
We generally are overcommitted, over worked, trying to be a full time worker/parent/daughter/friend and be everything to everyone.
Then compound that with a western diet laden with refined carbohydrates, sugars and chemicals all washed down with an unhealthy dose of caffeine (tea, coffee, soft drink and energy drinks) and alcohol and you have the perfect recipe for high stress hormones and low desire to reproduce.
Top tips to get your “boom chica wow wow” back in the bedroom:
1) Get rid of the commitments that don’t serve you… you know what they are! Make each other a priority.
2) Eat lean protein, multiple colours of veg/leafy greens and healthy fats with each main meal for great hormones and weight management.
3) Consume more water than flavoured fluid, this includes coffee and tea.
4) Take time out, individually and together as a couple. Set it on the calendar if you have to.
5) Try taking a bath/ spa/ shower together. Having a coffee/ dinner date.
6) Send the kids to bed early and forget about the dishes for one night.
7) Set the mood with candles, essential oils like Rose, Neroli, Clary sage and Ylang Ylang (can be used in bath, massage oil or oil burner) note: be careful where you place these oils and dilute with massage oil or moisturiser.
8) Greet each other with a kiss and hug at the end of the day.
9) Don’t forget foreplay! Stress naturally dries up secretions so you might want to pay a bit more attention here.
10) Consult a qualified naturopath, who can guide you through stress management supplements and techniques to help all areas of your health including libido.
BY NATUROPATHS BELINDA MCPHERSON AND SOPHIE LORBACK